HER DIARY
Day night, I thought he was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a cafe to have some coffee. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment.Conversation wasn't flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk, he agreed but he kept quiet and absent.I Asked him what was wrong - he said,"Nothing."I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said it had nothing to do with me and not to worry.
On the way home I told him that I loved him, he simply smiled and kept driving. I can't explain his
behavior; I don't know why he didn't say,"I love u, too."When we got home I felt as if I had lost him, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore.
He just sat there and watched TV. He seemed distant and absent.Finally I decided to go to bed. About 10 minutes later he came to bed. I decided that I could not take it anymore,
so I decided to confront him with the situation but he had fallen asleep.I started crying and cried until I too fell asleep. I don't know what to do. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone
else. My life is a disaster.
HIS DIARY
Today Liverpool lost the football match against Chelsea.
GODDAMN IT.
Make a list of all the things you wanted to do but never got down to doing. Now think of the reason why and if you think hard enough, you will realise that the only obstacle in the way was YOU. Either you were waiting - for the right opportunity, the right time, the right mood, etc. to get the job done or you were guilty of holding yourself back with a set of excuses: I am not ready, I can't do it, the time's not right, I'll do it tomorrow, etc. Either way, it's an opportunity wasted and regret tasted. And it tastes bitter.
When you regret something you become unhappy, get shackled to the past, waste your present and become hopelessly pessimistic about your future. Your confidence takes a beating as does your self esteem and self respect. You start doubting your capabilities and your attitude accelerates towards negativity. Nothing seems right and it seems right to think so. And from being a potential success, you turn yourself into a confirmed failure. But life is not about regretting lost opportunities, it's about counting the radiating possibilities. It's about being positive, about looking ahead rather than looking back, it's more about what you can do than what you have done. It's about being happy. And the best way to do that is to have less to regret.
So, how do you tackle your regret list? Just do it: From your regret list, select what you can still do and go ahead and just do it. It's up to me: Remember if it is to be, it is up to me. Do it yourself! DUnderstand that there is never a right time or a right moment.
Now is as right a time as any. Grow as you go: Don't wait to be fully ready. You never will be. Go ahead with what you have (in terms of knowledge, skills and attitude) and build your skills as you go along. Create opportunities: Don't wait for opportunities, create your own. Like Lakshmi Mittal said, "It's not always that you get to hit the iron when it's hot; believe in hitting it so hard that it gets hot!" Forget past failures: Failure is not final until you quit.
So don't quit, take stock, regroup and go for it again. Faith can move mountains: Have unflinching faith in yourself. No pain, no gain: Learn to live out of your comfort zone. The road to success is marked with commitments and sacrifices. Attitude of gratitude: Be happy with what you get, and what you get will always be happiness. Celebrate every achievement: The more you celebrate the less you regret.
Remember, never let yesterday's regrets overshadow tomorrows dreams.
In ancient Greece, Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem. One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher and said, "Do you know what I just heard about your friend?"
Hold on a minute," Socrates replied. "Before telling me anything, I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test."
Triple filter?"
That's right," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you're going to say. That's why I call it the triple filter test.
The first filter is TRUTH. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"
No," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and..."
All right," said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not. Now let's try the second filter, the filter of GOODNESS. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good?"
No, on the contrary..."
So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him, but you're not certain it's true. You may still pass the test though, because there's one filter left: the filter of USEFULNESS. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me?"
No, not really."
Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither true nor good nor even useful, why tell it to me at all?"
This is why Socrates was a great philosopher & held in such high esteem. Friends, use this triple filter each time you hear loose talk about any of your near & dear friends.
The 9 descriptions which follow are the types of love in dating relationships. People tended to list the aspects that they considered to be most important first and less important aspects later in each description. You will notice that there is much similarity between the descriptions. I thought I would let you see the description first. The names for each type are at the bottom of each description. (Note: Theses are only the types that relate to non-family types of love.)
The 9 Types of LOVE :
1. Affection
caring, hugging, kissing, fondness, closeness, concern, friendship, being there for the person, a bond, doing things for the person, happiness, helping the person, holding hands, sharing, warmth, can be one-sided, not too intense, not sexual.
2. Sexual Love
Physical attraction arousal lust expressed through sexual intercourse person is seen only as a sex object for one's own gratification commitment contentment excitement fulfills a need heart rate increases intimate kissing touching not long lasting close while having sex, but not necessarily after emotional giving happiness special think about the other person all the time.
3. Platonic Love
friendship not sexual caring doing thing together not physical supportive enjoy each other's company feel relaxed with the person happiness helping the person normal behavior sharing trust contentment feel free to talk about anything being reliable respect.
4. Friendship
Feel free to talk about anything caring helping honesty doing thing together trust sharing understanding sharing emotions being there for the other person good times happiness supporting long lasting loyalty openness sharing thoughts a bond closeness common interests concern feeling relaxed with the person listening to each other respect sadness sense of belonging sharing experiences.
5. Romantic Love
candlelight dinners taking walks happiness idealistic want to be with the other person all the time giving gifts dream about the person like a fairy tale feel relaxed with the person good times physical attraction sitting in front of a fireplace sharing courtship doing things together don't know the person very well kissing your world revolves around the person honesty glowing giving friendship feel free to talk about anything problems seem to vanish sexual sweaty palms soft music think about the person all the time.
6. Puppy Love
occurs at a young age a new experience not long lasting think about the person all the time infatuation feel shy around the person a crush dream about the person feel like your floating initially strong, but then fades painful if not reciprocated see only the person's good qualities act immaturely attraction heart rate increases kissing sweaty palms.
7. Passionate Love
sexual caring intense think about the person all the time a bond heart rate increases want to be with the person all the time arousal emotional expressive kissing lust attraction don't know the person very well euphoria excitement feel flushed giving your self completely to the person hugging intimate irrational physical the person is the most special person in your life not long lasting touching want to make each other happy.
8. Infatuation
Think about the other person all the time not long lasting physical attraction see only the person's good qualities intrigued by some fascinating quality of the person your world revolves around the person you don't know the person very well excited when you see the person being love-struck heart rate increases sweaty palms think you're in love talk about the person all the time want to be with the person all the time a crush based on first impressions irrational.
9. Committed Love
commitment continues regardless of the circumstances long lasting think about the person all the time being there for the person felt for only one person honesty sharing caring closeness giving respect a promise sexual trust understanding a bond devotion faithfulness feel free to talk about anything give and take relationship live together openness passionate sacrifice.
BRILLIANT EXPLANANTION!!!HILARIOUS!!! SORRY TO HURT ANYBODY !!!!!
Q: Daddy, why did we have to attack Iraq?
A: Because they had weapons of mass destruction honey.
Q: But the inspectors didn't find any weapons of mass destruction.
A: That's because the Iraqis were hiding them.
Q: And that's why we invaded Iraq?
A: Yep. Invasions always work better than inspections.
Q: But after we invaded them, we STILL didn't find any weapons of mass destruction, did we?
A: That's because the weapons are so well hidden. Don't worry, we'll find something, probably right before the 2004 election.
Q: Why did Iraq want all those weapons of mass destruction?
A: To use them in a war, silly.
Q: I'm confused. If they had all those weapons that they planned to use in a war, then why didn't they use any of those weapons when we went to war with them?
A: Well, obviously they didn't want anyone to know they had those weapons, so they chose to die by the thousands rather than defend themselves.
Q: That doesn't make sense Daddy. Why would they choose to die if they had all those big weapons to fight us back with?
A: It's a different culture. It's not supposed to make sense.
Q: I don't know about you, but I don't think they had any of those weapons our government said they did.
A: Well, you know, it doesn't matter whether or not they had those weapons. We had another good reason to invade them anyway.
Q: And what was that?
A: Even if Iraq didn't have weapons of mass destruction, Saddam Hussein was a cruel dictator, which is another good reason to invade another country.
Q: Why? What does a cruel dictator do that makes it OK to invade his country?
A: Well, for one thing, he tortured his own people.
Q: Kind of like what they do in China?
A: Don't go comparing China to Iraq. China is a good economic competitor, where millions of people work for slave wages in sweatshops to make U.S. corporations richer.
Q: So if a country lets its people be exploited for American corporate gain, it's a good country, even if that country tortures people?
A: Right.
Q: Why were people in Iraq being tortured?
A: For political crimes, mostly, like criticizing the government. People who criticized the government in Iraq were sent to prison and tortured.
Q: Isn't that exactly what happens in China?
A: I told you, China is different.
Q: What's the difference between China and Iraq?
A: Well, for one thing, Iraq was ruled by the Ba'ath party, while China is Communist.
Q: Didn't you once tell me Communists were bad?
A: No, just Cuban Communists are bad.
Q: How are the Cuban Communists bad?
A: Well, for one thing, people who criticize the government in Cuba are sent to prison and tortured.
Q: Like in Iraq?
A: Exactly.
Q: And like in China, too?
A: I told you, China's a good economic competitor. Cuba, on the other hand, is not.
Q: How come Cuba isn't a good economic competitor?
A: Well, you see, back in the early 1960s, our government passed some laws that made it illegal for Americans to trade or do any business with Cuba until they stopped being communists and started being capitalists like us.
Q: But if we got rid of those laws, opened up trade with Cuba, and started doing business with them, wouldn't that help the Cubans become capitalists?
A: Don't be a smart-ass.
Q: I didn't think I was being one.
A: Well, anyway, they also don't have freedom of religion in Cuba.
Q: Kind of like China and the Falun Gong movement?
A: I told you, stop saying bad things about China. Anyway, Saddam Hussein came to power through a military coup, so he's not really a legitimate leader anyway.
Q: What's a military coup?
A: That's when a military general takes over the government of a country by force, instead of holding free elections like we do in the United States.
Q: Didn't the ruler of Pakistan come to power by a military coup?
A: You mean General Pervez Musharraf? Uh, yeah, he did, but Pakistan is our friend.
Q: Why is Pakistan our friend if their leader is illegitimate?
A: I never said Pervez Musharraf was illegitimate.
Q: Didn't you just say a military general who comes to power by forcibly overthrowing the legitimate government of a nation is an illegitimate leader?
A: Only Saddam Hussein. Pervez Musharraf is our friend, because he helped us invade Afghanistan.
Q: Why did we invade Afghanistan?
A: Because of what they did to us on September 11th.
Q: What did Afghanistan do to us on September 11th?
A: Well, on September 11th, nineteen men, fifteen of them Saudi Arabians, hijacked four airplanes and flew three of them into buildings, killing over 3,000 Americans.
Q: So how did Afghanistan figure into all that?
A: Afghanistan was where those bad men trained, under the oppressive rule of the Taliban.
Q: Aren't the Taliban those bad radical Islamics who chopped off people's heads and hands?
A: Yes, that's exactly who they were. Not only did they chop off people's heads and hands, but they oppressed women, too.
Q: Didn't the Bush administration give the Taliban 43 million dollars back in May of 2001?
A: Yes, but that money was a reward because they did such a good job fighting drugs.
Q: Fighting drugs?
A: Yes, the Taliban were very helpful in stopping people from growing opium poppies.
Q: How did they do such a good job?
A: Simple. If people were caught growing opium poppies, the Taliban would have their hands and heads cut off.
Q: So, when the Taliban cut off people's heads and hands for growing flowers, that was OK, but not if they cut people's heads and hands off for other reasons?
A: Yes. It's OK with us if radical Islamic fundamentalists cut off people's hands for growing flowers, but it's cruel if they cut off people's hands for stealing bread.
Q: Don't they also cut off people's hands and heads in Saudi Arabia?
A: That's different. Afghanistan was ruled by a tyrannical patriarchy that oppressed women and forced them to wear burqas whenever they were in public, with death by stoning as the penalty for women who did not comply.
Q: Don't Saudi women have to wear burqas in public, too?
A: No, Saudi women merely wear a traditional Islamic body covering.
Q: What's the difference?
A: The traditional Islamic covering worn by Saudi women is a modest yet fashionable garment that covers all of a woman's body except for her eyes and fingers. The burqa, on the other hand, is an evil tool of patriarchal oppression that covers all of a woman's body except for her eyes and fingers.
Q: It sounds like the same thing with a different name.
A: Now, don't go comparing Afghanistan and Saudi Arabia. The Saudis are our friends.
Q: But I thought you said 15 of the 19 hijackers on September 11th were from Saudi Arabia.
A: Yes, but they trained in Afghanistan.
Q: Who trained them?
A: A very bad man named Osama bin Laden.
Q: Was he from Afghanistan?
A: Uh, no, he was from Saudi Arabia too. But he was a bad man, a very bad man.
Q: I seem to recall he was our friend once.
A: Only when we helped him and the mujahadeen repel the Soviet invasion of Afghanistan back in the 1980s.
Q: Who are the Soviets? Was that the Evil Communist Empire Ronald Reagan talked about?
A: There are no more Soviets. The Soviet Union broke up in 1990 or thereabouts, and now they have elections and capitalism like us. We call them Russians now.
Q: So the Soviets ? I mean, the Russians ? are now our friends?
A: Well, not really. You see, they were our friends for many years after they stopped being Soviets, but then they decided not to support our invasion of Iraq, so we're mad at them now. We're also mad at the French and the Germans because they didn't help us invade Iraq either.
Q: So the French and Germans are evil, too?
A: Not exactly evil, but just bad enough that we had to rename French fries and French toast to Freedom Fries and Freedom Toast.
Q: Do we always rename foods whenever another country doesn't do what we want them to do?
A: No, we just do that to our friends. Our enemies, we invade.
Q: But wasn't Iraq one of our friends back in the 1980s?
A: Well, yeah. For a while.
Q: Was Saddam Hussein ruler of Iraq back then?
A: Yes, but at the time he was fighting against Iran, which made him our friend, temporarily.
Q: Why did that make him our friend?
A: Because at that time, Iran was our enemy.
Q: Isn't that when he gassed the Kurds?
A: Yeah, but since he was fighting against Iran at the time, we looked the other way, to show him we were his friend.
Q: So anyone who fights against one of our enemies automatically becomes our friend?
A: Most of the time, yes.
Q: And anyone who fights against one of our friends is automatically an enemy?
A: Sometimes that's true, too. However, if American corporations can profit by selling weapons to both sides at the same time, all the better.
Q: Why?
A: Because war is good for the economy, which means war is good for America. Also, since God is on America's side, anyone who opposes war is a godless un-American Communist. Do you understand now why we attacked Iraq?
Q: I think so. We attacked them because God wanted us to, right?
A: Yes.
Q: But how did we know God wanted us to attack Iraq?
A: Well, you see, God personally speaks to George W. Bush and tells him what to do.
Q: So basically, what you're saying is that we attacked Iraq because George W. Bush hears voices in his head?
A: Yes! You finally understand how the world works. Now close your eyes, make yourself comfortable, and go to sleep. Good night.
So many of us have heroes. Leaders, artists or entreprenuers that inspire us. People who have made an impact, people who have shown us a better way, people who have overcome outrageous odds. Yet, the interesting insight about heroes is that they have the human imperfections and weaknesses that we do. They have their bad days, they feel despair, they get knocked down (in fact, heroes get knocked down more than the rest of us). Yet, in spite of their human frailties, heroes find a way to change the world.
Here's my challenge to you -- be your own hero. Ask yourself, what would it take for me to show up in the world like my heroes? You may never discover a life changing medicine, invent a best-in-class product or win the World Cup. But, you can show up every day with discipline, compassion and extraordinary commitment.
So, in your journal, go through the following steps and take the hero's journey.
1. List three to five of your heroes.
2. For each hero write down the traits that you admire. Is it Steve Nash's selflessness on the court? Is it Martin Luther King's commitment to civil rights? Is it Richard Branson's vison?
3. Then translate these traits into your life. Can you be more selfless at work? Can you make an unshakeable commitment to doing the right thing? Can you create a powerful vision for your life and pursue it?
4. Write these traits down on a card or better yet on a picture of that hero. Remind yourself to act like that hero. This way your hero becomes your mentor -- even if you'll never meet them.
5. Then go into your days and live like the hero you are.
Author : Robin S. Sharma
An internationally-known speaker on sales leadership, peak performance and creativity. The best selling author of several motivational books including Mega Living, he is the managing partner of Sharma Leadership International. He can be reached at RobinSharma.com
ELK CLONER, 1982: Regarded as the first virus to hit personal computers worldwide, "Elk Cloner" spread through Apple II floppy disks and displayed a poem written by its author, a ninth-grade student who was designing a practical joke.
BRAIN, 1986: "Brain" is the first virus to hit computers running a Microsoft Corp. operating system — DOS. Written by two Pakistani brothers, the virus left the phone number of their computer repair shop.
MORRIS, 1988: Written by a Cornell University graduate student whose father was then a top government computer-security expert, the virus infected an estimated 6,000 university and military computers connected over the Internet. Although viruses had spread over the Internet before, until "Morris" none was widespread.
MELISSA, 1999: "Melissa" was one of the first to spread over e-mail. When users opened an attachment, the virus sent copies of itself to the first 50 people in the user's address book, covering the globe within hours.
LOVE BUG, 2000: Also spread via e-mail attachment, "Love Bug" exploited human nature and tricked recipients into opening it by disguising itself as a love letter.
CODE RED, 2001: Exploiting a flaw in Microsoft software, "Code Red" was among the first "network worms" to spread rapidly because it required only a network connection, not a human opening an attachment. Although the flaw was known, many system operators had yet to install a software patch Microsoft made available a month earlier to fix it.
BLASTER, 2003: "Blaster" also took advantage of a known flaw in Microsoft software and, along with the 2003 "SoBig" outbreak, prompted Microsoft to offer cash rewards to people who help authorities capture and prosecute the virus writers.
SASSER, 2004: "Sasser" exploited a Microsoft flaw as well and prompted some computers to continually crash and reboot, apparently the result of bad programming. Although "Sasser" is hardly the last malicious software, the ones since then have generally received less attention as networks install better defenses and profit-minded virus writers try to avoid detection and removal of their works.
It is Possible, Believe It and You Can Do It!
Posted by Bobby Hamasaki at 19:14 Labels: Inspiring ArticleAre you in search of a more successful and happier life for yourself?
You deserve only the best life has to offer! I want to inspire you to reach inside of your mind and unlock that untapped potential that lies within you, and then I want to motivate you to use it to your advantage in creating a more successful, more fulfilled and happier life for yourself and your loved ones. Discover with me how to take control of your mental, emotional, physical and financial future and experience for yourself how your future starts to change.
THE MOST EXCITING JOURNEY OF YOUR LIFE STARTS HERE AND NOW – THE DISCOVERY OF WHO YOU REALLY ARE.
Do you often feel discouraged and frustrated with your life? Do your have the self-confidence to start new relationships and excel in your career, or do you feel your low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence is preventing you from having what you want? Do you always understand your behavior, and why you are not getting what you want? Most of us feel this way, although very few of us make a conscious decision to improve our life’s or completely change it.
CHOOSE YOUR LIFE.
You have the freedom of choice to determine what your future will look like. The decisions you make today will have a definite influence on your success and happiness in the future. It is now the time to start feeling more positive about your life and to get excited about the possibilities it holds. I want to provide you with practical guidelines that will help you to take back control of your life, to discover who you really are, and what you are capable off. It is time to start work on the creation of the life that will provide you with more fulfillment, success and happiness and that will make your dreams a reality. It is not impossible – you can LIVE a better life. The choice is yours.
DEVELOP YOUR POTENTIAL.
Within each one of us there lies a huge amount of untapped potential. Yet sadly little of us take the time to develop our potential and put it to good use. You therefor never develop and grow into the person you were destined to be. You will therefor never really know what you are capable of, and what you could have achieved in your life, if you only made the effort and took the time to discover this hidden potential and share it with the world. Do you live to your full potential every day, or are you living a life of existence – just hoping to get through each day? Are you a prisoner caught up in your comfort zone? It is time for personal growth and to discover that unused potential that will help you to give your life a boost and move you out of your comfort zone.
STOP LOOKING FOR EXCUSES.
It is not your age, sex, skin color or education, which will determine your degree of success or failure in life, but your own personal power that lies within you. You have God given power, potential, abilities and talents inside you, which you have to discover for yourself, in order to live a happy and meaningful life. This power is kept alive and inflamed by your dreams, your goals, and your vision of the future, and is anchored in your self-esteem. Your self-esteem and your self-confidence are the determining factors in what you will achieve in your life. Therefor you have to work every day to find the best in yourself and to use it for your own benefit, the benefit of your life partner, your kids, your family, your friends, your colleagues and your fellow man.
TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE.
Unfortunately most peoples life’s are dominated by negativity. You allow people and circumstances in which you find yourself to suffocate your dreams. Bottled up feelings of fear, self pity, hate, bitterness and jealousy keep you from what you can, and want to achieve in your life. You can not always control what happens to you, but you can learn how to change the way you react to what happens to you. It is time to learn how to make the right decisions, for the right reasons, and by doing so, positive things will start happening to you. This will drive you in the direction of the life you desire for yourself.
START BUILDING THE LIFE YOU ALWAYS DREAMT ABOUT.
I can not provide you with instant solutions to your problems – something like that do not exist. I can provide you with an opportunity to start thinking about your life in a different way, and make the changes necessary to create the life that will bring you success and enduring happiness. I want to help you to live an inspired and motivated life every day of your life for the rest of your life.
A kindergarten teacher has decided to let her class play a game. The teacher told each child in the class to bring along a plastic bag containing a few potatoes. Each potato will be given a name of a person that the child hates, so the no. of potatoes that a child will put in his/her plastic bag will depend on the no. of people he/she hates. So when the day came, every child brought some potatoes with the name of the people he/she hated. Some had 2 potatoes; some 3 while some up to 5 potatoes.
The teacher then told the children to carry with them the potatoes in the plastic bag wherever they go (even to the toilet) for 1 week. Days after days passed by, and the children started to complain due to the unpleasant smell let out by the rotten potatoes. Besides, those having 5 potatoes also had to carry heavier bags. After 1 week, the children were relieved because the game had finally ended.
The teacher asked: "How did you feel while carrying the potatoes with you for 1 week?" The children let out their frustrations and started complaining of the trouble that they had to go through having to carry the heavy and smelly potatoes wherever they go.
Then the teacher told them the hidden meaning behind the game. The teacher said:
"This is exactly the situation when you carry your hatred for somebody inside your heart. The stench of hatred will contaminate your heart and you will carry it with you wherever you go. If you cannot tolerate the smell of rotten potatoes for just 1 week, can you imagine what is it like to have the stench of hatred in your heart for your lifetime???"
Moral of the story:
Throw away any hatred for anyone from your heart so that you will not carry sins for a life time. Forgiving others is the best attitude to take!
E very time I sit to write about you,
A ll words seem to escape my inner self.
C an you give me some kind of feeling?
H ate, anger or maybe tension? any affection will do.
D o you remember, always comes at me strong,
A ny and every time I sit down to write about you,
Y ellow and red signs, tell me to turn back.
I ntolerable tolerance, I seem to feel, when;
H ate I want to feel; but to you I feel none,
A nger I felt at the time; slowly faded at the sight of you're face.
T ension between me and you; lifted in a second,
E xcitement rules, at the thought that you thought of me.
Y esterday was yesterday, lets leave it at that,
O ut the door, out of sight, out of mind and leave this,
U nexplainable enjoyment at hearing you're voice.
L et me hold you again, I forgive you, I forget.
E very time I sit to write about you,
S eeing you're picture, makes it all come flooding.
S aying you're gone, only makes it worse.
In the picture, just look at their condition.. there is no place to sleep, still they have made some space for the cat & the dog... water is pouring from the roof but still each 1 of them has a peaceful smile on their face.. simply amazing!
The happiest people in the world are not those who have no problems
but those who learn to live with things that are less than perfect.
Question : "What would you like to have ..Fruit juice, Soda, Tea, Chocolate, Milo, or Coffee?"
Answer: "tea please"
Question : "Ceylon tea, Herbal tea, Bush tea, Honey bush tea, Ice tea or green tea?"
Answer : "Ceylon tea"
Question : "How would you like it ? Black or white?"
Answer: "white"
Question: "Milk, Whitener, or Condensed milk?"
Answer: "With milk"
Question: "Goat milk, Camel milk or cow milk"
Answer: "With cow milk please."
Question: " Milk from Freeze land cow or Afrikaner cow?"
Answer: " Um, I'll take it black. "
Question: " Would you like it with sweetener, sugar or honey?"
Answer: "With sugar"
Question: " Beet sugar or cane sugar?"
Answer: "Cane sugar"
Question:" White, brown or yellow sugar ?"
Answer: "Forget about tea just give me a glass of water instead."
Question: "Mineral water or still water?"
Answer: "Mineral water"
Question: "Flavored or non-flavored?"
Answer: "I'll rather die of thirst"
Which is Easier? Create Wealth or Remain Poor?
Posted by Bobby Hamasaki at 16:30 Labels: Money + EntrepreneurshipWe have been led to believe it is much more difficult to obtain wealth than it is to remain poor. Common sense tells us this cannot be true. The great majority of poor people will work hard their entire lives just to pay bills and purchase essential items such as food, clothing, shelter and utilities (not to mention taxes). There is little or no money left over for entertainment, recreation, travel or nice vacations. Poor people will in most cases be forced to work hard right up to the time they die. On the other hand, most wealthy people also work hard for their money, but with a drastic difference. They are willing to work extremely hard for a shorter period of time in order to create wealth. In some cases, they simply work smarter instead of harder.
They perform at peak periods for a season and spend the rest of their lives enjoying the fruits of their labour. They are willing to innovate and try new projects in order to create wealth. They refuse to be limited by what others tell them they can or cannot do or what can or cannot be done. They are willing to step outside of their comfort zones. I define these as those areas of your life where you have done the same things over and over again until they have become the only way you know to live. You have become so complacent and comfortable that unless something drastic happens you are not willing to step out of those areas. You are unwilling to leave the known for the unknown.
A great definition of insanity is to keep doing the same things over and over and expect different results. You have to change things to change results. We can create great wealth in our lives. We have merely to be willing to step out of our comfort zones and reach for new and higher levels of achievement. Don't believe me? Take a good look at all those who have either achieved great wealth or performed great feats in their lives. Their education or lack of it, financial condition, health, background or environment made no difference. They became dissatisfied with their comfort zones and stepped out of them. It is truthfully stated that five years from now you will be the same person you are today except for the books you read and the people with whom you associate.
Give this some thought. When you habitually associate with people who have nothing and want nothing, this becomes part of your mental attitude and outlook. On the other hand, associate with people who are excited about changing their lives for the better and creating great wealth. They will literally pull you with them. Read books with no redeeming social, economic, motivational or educational value and you have only entertainment. Books and/or audio tapes which are educational and motivational will keep you going when all else tends to hold you back. Many will say they work really hard and need to relax when they have finished their labours. The first inclination is to hit the couch or sofa and watch television. How many hours each week do you waste watching television? Could these hours be put to better use?
Rather than watch television, devote that time to reading or listening to educational and motivational materials. This can be more relaxing than watching television. Study and if possible, associate with those who have accomplished what you wish to achieve. It is not really that difficult, for you will find those who are truly successful are enthusiastic about helping others. Please do not waste their time if you are not serious about what you wish to achieve. Let them give that time to others who will use it wisely. Wealth and success are within the reach of every person on this planet. Decide today to get out of your comfort zone and accomplish more with your life.
Author : Robert Taylor
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
Don't Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstances, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
by Don Miguel Ruiz
Dating someone is as hard as actually finding a date. To some finding a date is like a needle in a haystack; to others it is like a mountain flowing with honey. When a person is on the actual date, he tends to forget what the main point of the date is all about. People date to know more about one another and find out if they are right for each other. That's how I view dating in my very idealistic world.
For some reasons such as sheer joy, beauty or awe of the person you are dating. The dater may tend to forget all about the characteristics or traits he or she looks for. The daters may just suddenly like the person for the simplest reason of being pretty or being able to make you feel good because she looks like a model. You must try to avoid falling into a relationship where only the surface matters.
You might be pretty vain if you do think you're happy with a relationship based on the surface only. Who wouldn't want a good looking person for a date or a relationship? However these things might fail in the long run because you haven't based what you really want in the characteristics of the person. Lets just say that being beautiful is an advantage that makes a person stands out from the crowd. However it is really the characteristic and attitude of a person that should make you decide if the person is right for you.
Here is another common misconception about people. If you have the looks you are considered to be having some kind of attitude. This is because you won't need to rely having a great attitude to find yourself a date. While the people who look like the average Joes and Janes would need to have a great attitude. It may be true but not for all. We should never stereotype because by doing so, will also limit a persons chance of finding a date.
Here are the usual things or characteristics that are important to some people.
Humor is a great thing to look for in a person. Being with a humorous person helps ease the tension of the date a bit. It also makes the date more fun and enjoyable.
The eyes are the windows of the soul. Eye contact would be a great way to learn more about the emotions the other person is conveying. A person can also see the truth, honesty and understanding of a person through the eyes.
We should also look for a partner that is very understanding. It would be pretty irritating to find a judging partner. The partner should learn to accept the mistakes of the other in some cases and support him or her. This could be commonly displayed among the simplest of things. Such as where to dine, what to do or even having a great conversation.
The important thing to look for is the honesty and truth of a person. A relationship will not last very long when it is based on hidden agendas and lies. One partner may feel very jealous or have doubts about the relationship. So honesty is very important and is a hard one to develop.
It is a common misconception that people look for people like them. This might be true for some, but the more general truth is that we all just want a person that can be able to understand our own personality.
The Japanese save a lot. They do not spend much. Also Japan exports far more than it imports. Has an annual trade surplus of over $100 billion, yet Japanese economy is considered weak, even collapsing. Americans spend, save little. Also US import more than it exports. Has an annual trade deficit of over $400 billion. Yet, the American economy is considered strong and trusted to get stronger. But where from do Americans get money to spend? They borrow from Japan, China, and even India. Virtually others save for the US to spend. Global savings are mostly invested in US, in dollars. India itself keeps its foreign currency assets of over $50 billions in US securities. China has sunk over $160 billion in US securities. Japan 's stakes in US securities is in trillions.
Result:
The US has taken over $5 trillion from the world.
So, as the world saves for the US, Americans spend freely.
Today, to keep the US consumption going, that is for the US economy to work, the countries have to remit $180 billion every quarter that is $2 billion a day to the US! Otherwise the US economy would go for a sick. So will the global economy. The result will be no different if US consumers begin consuming less. Chinese economist asked a neat question. Who has invested more, US in China, or China in US?
The US has invested in China less than half of what China has invested in US. The same is the case with India. They have invested in US over $50 billion. But the US has invested less than $20 billion in India. Why the world is after US? The secret lies in the American spending, that they hardly save. In fact they use their credit cards to spend their future income. That the US spends is what makes it attractive to export to the US. So US imports more than what it exports year after year.
The result:
The world is dependent on US consumption for its growth. By its deepening culture of consumption, the US has habituated the world to feed on US consumption. But as the US needs money to finance its consumption, the world provides the money. It's like a shopkeeper providing the money to a customer so that the customer keeps buying from his shop. The customer will not buy; the shop won't have business, unless the shopkeeper funds him. The US is like the lucky customer. And the world is like the helpless shopkeeper financier. Who is America 's biggest shopkeeper financer? Japan of course. Yet it's Japan which is regarded as weak.
Modern economists complain that Japanese do not spend, so they do not Grow. To force the Japanese to spend, the Japanese government exerted itself. Reduced the savings rates, even charged the savers Even then the Japanese did not spend (habits don't change, even with taxes, do they?). Their traditional postal savings alone is over $1.2 trillions, about three times the Indian GDP. Thus, savings, far from being the strength of Japan, has become its pain. Hence, what is the lesson?
A nation cannot grow unless the people spend, not save. Not just spend, but borrow and spend. Dr. Jagdish Bhagwati, the famous Indian-born economist in the US , told that don't wastefully save. Start spending, on imported cars and, seriously, even on cosmetics! This will put all nations on a growth curve. "Saving is sin, and spending is virtue."
Before you follow this neo economics, get someone to save so that you can borrow from them and spend. This is what US has successfully done in last few decades.
- Always make time to talk about how your day went. Even ten or fifteen minutes spent in conversation can help the two of you stay in touch and feel closer.
- Understand that there IS such thing as a good argument. As long as honest feelings were expressed and eventually understood, and as long as there was some conclusion where both partners believed that something was accomplished, then you had a successful argument. Extremely abusive language, sustained hostility, or open threats are NOT part of a good argument.
- Don't forget to maintain the "little courtesies", such as saying "please" and "thank you" and generally showing respect and recognition for everyday things.
- Never rely on your partner (or anyone else) to make you happy. Only you can do that.
- Do not assume that your partner will automatically know what your feelings, needs, wants, and preferences are, or what mood you are in.
- In a healthy relationship, both partners are always growing and improving. Healthy relationships should bring out the best in us. They should inspire, motivate, and enhance our creativity and well-being.
- Learn how to accept the natural ups and downs of a relationship. Nothing is perfect, and love will always be accompanied by a certain amount of hurt, tension, frustration, misunderstanding and jealousy.
- Recognize some of the differences between males and females. MEN: Women enjoy conversation, communicating in groups, and expressing detail verbally. Men enjoy variety, respond well to good-natured challenge, and place a high value on personal space and privacy.
- Every relationship can benefit from a periodic change of pace. Try a new restaurant. Take a trip to a nearby location chosen at random. Rent a hotel room even if you have privacy at home. Experiment with fantasy. Learn how to be playfully unpredictable. Creativity will keep a relationship fresh.
- Give yourself reinforcement after you have successfully tried one of the techniques to improve your relationship, even if the outcome was not exactly what you wanted. It is very important to be "self-rewarding."
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There are only two ways of looking at life, only two basic attitudes with which you view life-either as a problem or a situation. Those who are smart know the alchemy of converting problems into situations while a fool converts situations into problems.
Osho tells a great Sufi parable: A king wanted to appoint a prime minister. Four great thinkers of the country were called. They were put into a room and told that the door was going to be locked and that the lock was not an ordinary lock, but a mathematical puzzle. "Unless you solve the puzzle, you will not be able to open the door. If you solve the puzzle, you will be able to open the lock and come out."
The king went out and closed the door. Three of the four thinkers got down to work, immediately. They had brought paper and some guide books, and they started working really seriously. There were a few numbers written on the lock. They observed the numbers and noted them down. Then, they started working out the problem.
The fourth thinker simply sat in a corner. The three others thought he was mad. "What is he doing?" He was sitting there with his eyes shut. After a few minutes, he stood up, went to the door, pushed the door and it opened! And he went out...
The other scholars were still busy scratching their heads to solve the problem. They didn't even realise what had just happened. They were too preoccupied to see that the fourth person was already out.
Finally, the king came in with the fourth man. Addressing the three thinkers, he said, "Stop! The examination is over. I have chosen my prime minister. This is the man." They were jolted out of their stupor. They couldn't believe their eyes. They said, "How could this happen? He wasn't doing anything. He just sat in the corner. How could he solve it?"
And the man replied calmly, "There was no problem. I sat there, and the first thing, the basic thing, was to know whether the door was locked or not. I simply meditated silently. I just gathered my consciousness together. I became completely quiet and pondered over where to begin. The first thing an intelligent person always asks is whether there is really a problem or not. If there is a problem, it can be solved; if there is no problem there's nothing to be solved! And if you start solving, you will go into infinite regress. So I went just to check whether the door was really closed, and found that it wasn't."
The king said: "Yes, that was the trick. There was no lock at all. The door was left open. I was waiting for the man who would ask the first real question. You accepted the puzzle and you started solving it; that was where you missed the point. You could not have solved it even if you had worked on it for your entire life. This man knows how to be aware in a situation. He asked the right first question."
It was December 23, 1993. For a single mom who was going to college and supporting my children completely alone, Christmas was looking bleak. I looked around my little home, realization dawning like a slow, twisting pain. We were poor.
Our tiny house had two bedrooms, both off the living room. They were so small that my baby daughter's crib barely fit into one room, and my son's twin bed and dresser were squeezed into the other. There was no way they could share a room, so I made my bed every night on the living room floor.
The three of us shared the only closet in the house. We were snug, always only a few feet from each other, day and night. With no doors on the children's rooms, I could see and hear them at all times. It made them feel secure, and it made me feel close to them... a blessing I wouldn't have had in other circumstances.
It was early evening, about eight o'clock. The snow was falling softly, silently, and my children were both asleep. I was wrapped in a blanket, sitting at the window, watching the powdery flakes flutter in the dimming light, when my front door vibrated with a pounding fist.
Alarmed, I wondered who would stop by unannounced on such a snowy winter night. I opened the door to find a group of strangers grinning from ear to ear, their arms laden with boxes and bags.
Confused, but finding their joyous spirit contagious, I grinned right back at them.
"Are you Susan?" The man stepped forward as he held out a box for me.
Nodding stupidly, unable to find my voice, I was sure they thought I was mentally deficient.
"These are for you." The woman thrust another box at me with a huge, beaming smile. The porch light and the snow falling behind her cast a glow over her dark hair, lending her an angelic appearance.
I looked down into her box. It was filled to the top with delicious treats, a fat turkey, and all the makings of a traditional Christmas dinner. My eyes filled with tears as the realization of why they were there washed over me.
Finally coming to my senses, I found my voice and invited them in. Following the husband were two children, staggering with the weight of their packages. The family introduced themselves and told me their packages were all gifts for my little family. This wonderful, beautiful family, who were total strangers to me, somehow knew exactly what we needed. They brought wrapped gifts for each of us, a full buffet for me to make on Christmas Day, and many "extras" that I could never afford. Visions of a beautiful, "normal" Christmas literally danced in my head. Somehow my secret wish for Christmas was materializing right in front of me. The desperate prayers of a single mom had been heard, and I knew right then that God had sent his angels my way.
My mysterious angels then handed me a white envelope, gave me another round of grins, and took turns hugging me. They wished me a Merry Christmas and disappeared into the night as suddenly as they had appeared.
Amazed and deeply touched, I looked around me at the boxes and gifts strewn at my feet and felt the ache of depression suddenly being transformed into a childlike joy. I began to cry. I cried hard, sobbing tears of the deepest gratitude. A great sense of peace filled me. The knowledge of God's love reaching into my tiny corner of the world enveloped me like a warm quilt. My heart was full. I fell to my knees amid all the boxes and offered a heartfelt prayer of thanks.
Getting to my feet, I wrapped myself in my blankets and sat once again to gaze out the window at the gently falling snow. Suddenly, I remembered the envelope. Like a child, I ripped it open and gasped at what I saw. A shower of bills flitted to the floor. Gathering them up, I began to count the five, ten, and twenty-dollar bills. As my vision blurred with tears, I counted the money, then recounted it to make sure I had it right. Sobbing again, I said it out loud: "One hundred dollars."
I looked at my children sleeping soundly, and through my tears I smiled my first happy, free-of-worry smile in a long, long time. My smile turned into a grin as I thought about tomorrow: Christmas Eve. One visit from complete strangers had magically turned a painful day into a special one that we would always remember... with happiness.
It is now several years since our Christmas angels visited. I have remarried, and our household is happy and richly blessed. Every year since that Christmas in 1993, we have chosen a family less blessed than we are. We bring them carefully selected gifts, food and treats, and as much money as we can spare. It's our way of passing on what was given to us. It's the "ripple effect" in motion. We hope that the cycle continues and that, someday, the families we share with will be able to pass it on, too.
Author : Susan Fahncke
1. Be resolved to become a kind person. How do you do this? Think, speak, and act with kindness.
2. Love kindness. When you do what you love, you are happy. A master of kindness is a master of joy.
3. When encountering someone, let your first thoughts be, "What kind words can I say to this person and what kind things can I do?"
4. Keep asking people, "What can I do for you?"
5. Everyone needs encouragement. Ask yourself, "What can I say that will be encouraging?"
6. Wherever you are, you are there for a reason. Ask yourself, "Since I am here now, what kindness can I do?"
7. Every kind person is unique. You have unique talents, skills, knowledge, and resources. Utilize them to help others in your own unique way. Ask yourself,"In what unique ways can I be kind?"
8. Do a daily act of kindness without letting anyone know who did it
9. Learn from every kind act you see or read about. Ask yourself, "How can I learn from this to be kinder?"
10. A valuable rule is, "Even if you don't feel like a kind person, you can still act like one." Think of a kind act you can do that you don't feel like doing.
11. Think of a kindness telephone call that you can make today.
12. Think of a kindness note, letter, or email that you can write today.
13. View your own pain, distress, and suffering as tools for empathy and understanding. Ask yourself, "How can this experience help me be a kinder person?"
14. Keep asking yourself, "If I were this person, what would I want others to do for me?"
15. As soon as you recognize a need, volunteer to do something about it. Don't wait until you are asked.
16. Listen to those who need a listening ear. Listening to someone is a great act of kindness.
17. If you know that someone is looking for a job or needs to earn more money, ask yourself, "What can I do to make it happen?"
18. Be empathetic and compassionate.
19. Be resolved not to cause distress, pain, or loss with your words and action.
20. Learn from everyone. Keep asking people, "What kindnesses from others have you appreciated?"
21. Pray for the welfare of others.
Anthony Robbins
Let me give you a great example of a man who understood the power of real decision, someone who once decided, would not give up. His name is Soichiro Honda: founder of the Honda Corporation, the maker of Honda cars and motorcycles.
Mr. Honda never allowed tragedy, problems, challenges or the twists and turns of circumstance to get in his way. In fact, he often decided to see some of the biggest Obstacles in his way as mere hurdles in the race to reach his Goals.
In 1938, Mr. Honda was a poor student who had a dream of designing a piston ring that he would sell to and manufacture for Toyota Corporation. Every day he would go to school, and all night long he would work on his design, up to his elbows in grease. He spent what little money he had on his project, and it still wasn't finished. Finally, he hocked his wife's jewelry to continue.
After years of effort he finally designed the piston ring he was sure Toyota would buy. When he took it to them, they rejected it.
He was sent back to school to suffer the humiliation of his teacher's and friend's telling him what an idiot he was for designing such a ridiculous gadget. Was he frustrated? You bet. Was he broke? Yes. Did he give up? No way. Instead he spent the next two years continuing to find ways to make the piston ring better. He had the key formula to Success.
He decided what he wanted. He took action. He noticed whether it was working or not, and when things weren't working out. He kept changing his approach. He was flexible in the way he went about things. Finally after two more years, he refined his design, and Toyota actually bought it!
In order to build his piston factory, Mr. Honda needed concrete, but the Japanese government was gearing up for World War II, so none was available. Once again it looked as if his dream would die. It seemed no one would help him. Again did he quit? Absolutely not! He had decided to build this factory. Since giving up was not an option, he got together a group of his friends, and for weeks they worked around the clock trying different approaches until they found a new way to manufacture concrete.
He built his factory and was finally able to produce his piston rings.
During the war, the United States bombed his factory, destroying most of it. Instead of feeling defeated, Mr. Honda rallied all his employees. He said, "Quickly! Run outside and watch those war planes. What they'll do is drop their fuel cans out of the sky. We need to find out where they drop them and get those Cans, because they contain the raw materials we needed for the manufacturing process. These were the materials they couldn't get anywhere in Japan. Mr. Honda found a way to use whatever life gave him. Finally an earthquake leveled his factory and he was forced to sell his piston operation to Toyota.
But God never closes a door without opening another one, so we need to stay alert to see whatever new opportunities life presents us....
When the war ended, Japan was in total turmoil. Resources were scarce in all parts of the country - gasoline was rationed and in some cases nearly impossible to find - and Mr. Honda couldn't even get enough gas to drive his car to the market to buy food for his family. But instead of feeling defeated or helpless, he made a new decision. He decided he would not settle for this quality of life. He asked himself a very powerful question: "How else can I feed my family? How can I use things I already have to find a way to get there?"
He noticed a little motor he had, one that was the size and type to drive a traditional lawn mover, and he got the idea of hooking it up to his bicycle. In that moment, the first motorized bike was created.
He drove it to and from the market, and pretty soon his friends were asking him to make some for them too. Shortly thereafter, he had made so many 'motorbikes' that he ran out of motors, so he decided to build a new factory to manufacture his own. But he had no money, and Japan was torn apart. How would he do it?
Instead of giving up and saying, "There's no way", he came up with a brilliant idea. He decided to write a letter to every single bicycle- shop owner in Japan, telling them that he thought he had the solution for getting Japan moving again, that his motorbike would be cheap and would help people get where they needed to go.
Then he asked them to invest. Of the 18,000 bicycle shop owners who received a letter, 3000 gave Mr. Honda money, and he manufactured his first Shipment. And then he was success, right? Wrong!
The motorbike was too big and bulky, and very few Japanese bought it. So once again, he noticed what wasn't working, and instead of giving up, he changed his approach again. He decided to strip his motorbike down and make it much lighter and smaller.
He called it The Cub, and it became a "overnight Success", winning Honda the Emperor's Award.
Every one looked at him and thought how "Lucky" he was to have come up with this idea. Was he lucky? May be, if L.U.C.K means Labor Under Correct Knowledge. Today Mr. Honda's company is one of the most successful in the World. Honda Corporation now employs over 100,000 people - all because Mr. Honda never gave up.
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Priest dies and is waiting in line at the Pearly Gates. Ahead of him is a guy who's dressed in sunglasses, a loud shirt, leather jacket and jeans. Saint Peter addresses him, "Who are you, so that I may know whether or not to admit you into the Kingdom of Heaven?"
The guy replies, "I'm Joe Cohen, taxi driver, from New York."
Saint Peter consults his list. He smiles and says to the taxi driver,
"Take this silken robe and golden staff and enter the Kingdom of Heaven."
Now it's the priest's turn. He stands erect and booms out, "I am the Right Reverend Joseph Snow, pastor of Saint Mary's for the last forty-three years."
Saint Peter consults his list. He says to the priest,"Take this cotton robe and wooden staff and enter the Kingdom of Heaven ."
"Just a minute," says the priest. "That man was a taxi driver. Why does he get a silken robe and golden staff?"
"Results," shrugged Saint Peter....... ....
"While you preached, people slept. When he drove, people prayed."
Moral of the story: It's Performance, Not Position that Counts.
Your language might offend some people, but the tone and attitude behind your words do far greater damage to all of your relationships.
Even if your friends and associates commonly use cuss words, you will be perceived as more mature, intelligent, articulate, polite, considerate and pleasant if you control your language and the emotions that typically prompt expletives. You can choose to have character and class, or be considered rude, crude and crass.
Cursing is sometimes humorous, but sometimes abusive. It can help vent anger, or provoke it. It can relieve stress, or cause it. It can be clever and flirtatious, or sexist and intimidating. Consequently, be aware of when and where you swear. Control it, tame it, time it. Or, to be on the safe side, stop using it altogether.
1. Recognize that swearing does damage.
You probably swear because it is easy, fun, candid, emphatic, expressive, breaks rules, and somehow partially reduces anger and pain. But the negatives outweigh the positives. You really don't win an argument by swearing. You don't prove that you are smart or articulate. You don't earn respect or admiration. You don't motivate, you intimidate. Swearing doesn't get you hired, promoted, or romantically connected.
2. Start by eliminating casual swearing.
Pretend that your sweet little grandmother or your young daughter is always next to you. Use inflections for emphasis instead of offensive adjectives. Be more descriptive instead of using the "s" word to describe everything from objects, work and the weather to the way you feel, the way someone looks, and the way something smells.
3. Think positively.
Look to the bright side. Develop a "can do" attitude. Worry only to the point that motivates you to prepare for the problem, then hope for the best. A positive mental attitude not only eliminates lots of swearing, it brings you contentment and brightens your personality.
4. Practice being patient.
When you are stuck in line or in traffic, ask yourself if a few more minutes matters. Be honest -- does it really matter? If so, and you have no control of the situation, plan the rest of your day or do the thinking that you say you never have time to do. Talk to someone, even a stranger in line with you.
5. Cope, don't cuss.
We live in an imperfect world, yet our expectations continually increase. Each day can be filled with aggravations, delays, disappointments and frustrations. The fact is, we have to deal with them anyway. So stop cussing and learn to cope. Consider even the smallest annoyance a challenge, and feel proud of yourself for taking care of it cheerfully and efficiently.
6. Stop complaining.
Before you start griping or whining about something, remind yourself of a very important reality: no one wants to hear it!
Why would they? Avoid complaining about matters that you and the people with you have no control over. For all other complaints, try to offer a rational solution. Others will admire your common sense, wisdom and calm approach to the problem.
7. Use alternative words.
English is a colorful language, but chronic cursers repeatedly use the same, unimaginative words that have been around for centuries. Take the time to develop your own list of alternatives to the nasty words you now use, relying on your own intelligence, a thesaurus, good books, and even some of the more clever TV shows. Select a few powerful or even funny words, and get in the habit of substituting them for swear words. For example, instead of B.S., choices range from lie, fabrication, nonsense and exaggeration to bunk, baloney, drivel, malarkey, hokum, hogwash and balderdash. They might not give you satisfaction at first, but they will eventually.
8. Make your point politely.
Some substitute words can be just as offensive if your tone is abrasive or you insult someone. Think of the response to what you are about to say, and decide if you need to reword your statement to be more effective. For example, if someone suggests that you are doing something incorrectly, your response can range from "Who gives a flying f___?" to "I don't care," to "It really doesn't matter," or "I think my way is faster." The first reply is defensive, defiant, belligerent, and reflects a terrible attitude. The last reply is a justification that the other person might appreciate. Take the time to make your point in a mature and convincing manner.
9. Think of what you should have said.
It is easy to blurt out a swear word at an inappropriate time, or to bark out a tactless or tasteless remark before you have a chance to consider the impact. Think of what you could have said. After you shout an expletive, simply say the tamer word you wished you had said. If you make a statement that you later realize was negative, confrontational or rude, think of how you could have phrased the statement. Over time, these exercises will train you to think and act differently.
10. Work at it.
Breaking the swearing habit might prove to be no easier that losing weight, giving up cigarettes, or correcting any other habit. It takes practice, support from others, and a true desire to be a better person -- not only by controlling your language, but the emotions that prompt you to swear. Here are a few exercises to condition yourself:
• Think in clean language, and switch negative thoughts into positive solutions.
• When you are on your way to a situation you know will test your temper and your tongue, plan ahead what you will say and how you will say it.
• Tell your family or friends what you are doing, and you will be more cautious around them.
• Determine when and why you swear the most, and develop your own tricks for changing your behavior.
WHEN GIVING A CUSTOMER BAD NEWS
Britons: I'm sorry, Sir, but we don't seem to have the sweater you want in
your size, but if you give me a moment, I can call the other outlets for you.
Malaysians/Singaporeans: No Stock.
RETURNING A CALL
Britons: Hello, this is John Smith. Did anyone page for me a few moments ago?
Malaysians/Singaporeans: Hello, who page?
SKING SOMEONE TO MAKE WAY
Britons: Excuse me, I'd like to get by. Would you please make way?
Malaysians/Singaporeans: S-kew me
WHEN SOMEONE OFFERS TO PAY
Britons: Hey, put your wallet away, this drink is on me.
Malaysians/Singaporeans:No-need, lah.
WHEN ASKING FOR PERMISSION
Britons: Excuse me, but do you think it would be possible for me to enter through this door?
Malaysians/Singaporeans: (pointing the door) can ar?
WHEN ENTERTAINING
Britons: Please make yourself right at home.
Malaysians/Singaporeans: Don't be shy, lah!
WHEN DOUBTING SOMEONE
Britons: I don't recall you giving me the money.
Malaysians/Singaporeans: Where got?
WHEN DECLINING AN OFFER
Britons: I'd prefer not to do that, if you don't mind.
Malaysians/Singaporeans: Don't want la...
IN DISAGREEING ON A TOPIC OF DISCUSSION
Britons: Err. Tom, I have to stop you there. I understand where you're
coming from, but I really have to disagree with what you said about the issue.
Malaysians/Singaporeans: You mad, ah?
WHEN ASKING SOMEONE TO LOWER THEIR VOICE
Britons: Excuse me, but could you please! lower your voice, I'm trying to concentrate over here.
Malaysians/Singaporeans: Shut up lah!
WHEN ASKING SOMEONE IF HE/SHE KNOWS YOU
Britons: Excuse me, but I noticed you staring at me for some time.. Do I know you?
Malaysians/Singaporeans: See what, see what?
WHEN ASSESSING A TIGHT SITUATION
Britons: We seem to be in a bit of a predicament at the moment.
Malaysians/Singaporeans: Die-lah!!
WHEN TRYING TO FIND OUT WHAT HAD HAPPENED
Britons: Will someone tell me what has just happened?
Malaysians/Singaporeans: Wat happen Why like that....
WHEN SOME ONE DID SOMETHING WRONG
Britons: This isn't the way to do it here let me show you,
Malaysians/Singaporeans: like that also don't know how to do!!!!
Dear friends there is an Italian horoscope given below. You can find a lot about you by just searching your own identity in Italian way.What you have to do is to find your group with the help of your date of birth.
Group A1 (date of birth : 01,06,11,16,21,26,31)
You consider love as the most beautiful thing and you love to fall in love, but a number of your group members think that the person they love is not sincere with them. You love to be with your friends and you are always found to be a dutiful friend. You can hardly control your patience, which is a very big drawback of your nature. The Person who is ruling your mind & heart these days is perfect for you.
Group B2 (date of birth : 02,07,12,17,22,27)
Your dreams and ambitions are much important for you and you can do everything to fulfill your dreams. Love is much valuable in your life but you always search for someone perfect. You hardly trust someone. Your friends are really important for you but normally you hide a lot from them. You are a deep thinker you always study the negative view as well as positive. You can lead a happy life with a person for whom you care a lot these days.
Group C3 (date of birth : 03,08,13,18,23,28)
You always prefer mantel decisions more then emotional ones due to this you don't have a limited number of friends. You consider life a very beautiful gift and you love to enjoy its colors. There are a number of peoples who are your ideals and you loved to spend a big part of your time with them. You are found to be a very sincere lover. You have a perfect control on your emotions but sometimes your decisions really effect your beloveds. The person who has just appeared in your mind and you has decided to forward this mail especially to him/her is your real and special friend.
Group D4 (date of birth : 04,09,14,19,24,29)
Your always have goals to achieve and you can do everything to fulfill the dreams of those who loves you. You have a sketch of an ideal in your mind and you always search for that personality. Your friends means a lot to you and you can do everything for the sake of your friend, you a normally found to be an emotional personality. You have a very less control on your patience and due to this sometimes you over react. The one who sent you this mail & the one to whom you will send this mail first are your real friends.
Group E5 (date of birth : 05,10,15,20,25,30)
You are found to be a person who loves to love. You prefer emotional decision more then mantel decisions. You consider life just to enjoy; you are the one who is perfect to call FLURTIES. You love to increase the list of your friends and beloved's. You have a number of dreams but you never work hard to make your dreams come true which is the biggest drawback in your nature you take everything much lightly. With in 7 days you will meet a person whom you have never met before that is the person ideal for you.
This is maybe the funniest explanation about governments system. But I decided to categorized it in Knowledge section not Just For Laugh section. hahaha...
Feudalism
You have two cows. Your lord takes some of the milk.
Pure Socialism
You have two cows. The government takes them and puts them in a barn with everyone else's cows. You have to take care of all the cows. The government gives you as much milk as you need.
Bureaucratic Socialism
You have two cows. The government takes them and puts them in a barn with everyone else's cows. They are cared for by ex-chicken farmers. You have to take care of the chickens the government took from the chicken farmers. The government gives you as much milk and eggs the regulations say you should need.
Fascism
You have two cows. The government takes both, hires you to take care of them, and sells you the milk.
Pure Communism
You have two cows. Your neighbors help you take care of them, and you all share the milk.
Russian Communism
You have two cows. You have to take care of them, but the government takes all the milk.
Cambodian Communism
You have two cows. The government takes both and shoots you.
Dictatorship
You have two cows. The government takes both and drafts you.
Pure Democracy
You have two cows. Your neighbors decide who gets the milk.
Representative Democracy
You have two cows. Your neighbors pick someone to tell you who gets the milk.
Bureaucracy
You have two cows. At first the government regulates what you can feed them and when you can milk them. Then it pays you not to milk them. Then it takes both, shoots one, milks the other and pours the milk down the drain. Then it requires you to fill out forms accounting for the missing cows.
Pure Anarchy
You have two cows. Either you sell the milk at a fair price or your neighbors try to take the cows and kill you.
Anarcho-Capitalism
You have two cows. You sell one and buy a bull.
Surrealism
You have two giraffes. The government requires you to take harmonica lessons.
The 13 Characteristics of Successful People
Posted by Bobby Hamasaki at 20:30 Labels: Inspiring ArticleI've spent many years studying successful people and have identified the skills, talents, and characteristics that enable them to succeed. As you look at and study these skills, talents, and characteristics, you'll realize that you possess many of them yourself. Some of these skills and talents are more dominant than others and will play a greater part in your being, or becoming, a success in the business of life. These are the things you do well. The things you do easily and effortlessly. These are your strengths. When you find you need a skill or talent you don't have, just go out and look for a person or group of people with the skills, talents, and training you need. Skills and talents that complement your own. These people will become your teammates, colleagues, co-workers, professional advisors, and friends. With these combined skills and talents organizations grow, prosper, and become successful.
These are the five things you'll find every successful person has in common:
1. They have a dream.
2. They have a plan.
3. They have specific knowledge or training.
4. They're willing to work hard.
5. They don't take no for an answer.
Remember: Success begins with a state of mind. You must believe you'll be successful in order to become a success.
The following is a list of the skills, talents, and characteristics you'll find in successful people:
1. Successful People Have a Dream.
They have a well-defined purpose. They have a definite goal. They know what they want. They aren't easily influenced by the thoughts and opinions of others. They have willpower. They have ideas. Their strong desire brings strong results. They go out and do things that others say can't be done.
Remember: It only takes one sound idea to achieve success.
Remember: People who excel in life are those who produce results, not excuses. Anybody can come up with excuses and explanations for why he hasn't made it. Those who want to succeed badly enough don't make excuses.
2. Successful People Have Ambition.
They want to accomplish something. They have enthusiasm, commitment, and pride. They have self-discipline. They're willing to work hard and to go the extra mile. They have a burning desire to succeed. They're willing to do whatever it takes to get the job done.
Remember: With hard work come results. The joy in life comes with working for and achieving something.
3. Successful People Are Strongly Motivated Toward Achievement.
They take great satisfaction in accomplishing a task.
4. Successful People Are Focused.
They concentrate on their main goals and objectives. They don't get sidetracked. They don't procrastinate. They work on the projects that are important, and don't allow those projects to sit until the last minute. They're productive, not just busy.
5. Successful People Learn How to Get Things Done.
They use their skills, talents, energies, and knowledge to the fullest extent possible. They do the things that need to be done, not just the things they like to do. They are willing to work hard and to commit themselves to getting the job done.
Remember: Happiness is found in doing and accomplishing, not in owning and possessing.
Anecdote: Many years ago I was asked: "Jeff, do you like pleasing habits or pleasing results?" As I pondered that probing question, and squirmed in my chair like a worm at the end of a hook, I felt as if I had painted myself into a corner. A few moments later I answered: "I like pleasing results." From that moment on my life changed. I began to do the things that were difficult, because they enabled me to achieve my goals.
6. Successful People Take Responsibility for Their Actions.
They don't make excuses. They don't blame others. They don't whine and complain.
7. Successful People Look for Solutions to Problems.
They're opportunity minded. When they see opportunities they take advantage of them.
8. Successful People Make Decisions.
They think about the issues and relevant facts, give them adequate deliberation and consideration, and make a decision. Decisions aren't put off or delayed, they're made now!
SuccessTip: Spend more time thinking and planning before you make your decision, and you'll make better decisions.
SuccessTip: When you don't get the expected results from the decision you've made, change your course of action. Decisions should never be carved in stone.
9. Successful People Have the Courage to Admit They've Made a Mistake.
When you make a mistake, admit it, fix it, and move on. Don't waste a lot of time, energy, money, and/or other resources trying to defend a mistake or a bad decision.
Remember: When people are wrong, they may admit it to themselves. If they are handled gently and tactfully, they may admit it to others and even take pride in their frankness and broad-mindedness. But people become very defensive and angry when others try to cram their mistakes down their throats.
10. Successful People Are Self-Reliant.
They have the skills, talents, and training that are needed in order to be successful.
11. Successful People Have Specific Knowledge, Training, and/or Skills and Talents.
They know the things they need to know to be successful. And when they need information, knowledge, or skills and talents that they don't possess, they find someone who does possess them.
12. Successful People Work with and Cooperate with Other People.
They have positive, outgoing personalities. They surround themselves with people who offer them help, support, and encouragement. They are leaders.
13. Successful People Are Enthusiastic.
They're excited by what they're doing, and that excitement is contagious. They draw people to them because these people want to work with them, do business with them, and be with them.
Author : Jeffrey J. Mayer
Myth: We use only 10 percent of our brains.
Fact: Physicians and comedians alike, including Jerry Seinfeld, love to cite this one. It's sometimes erroneously credited to Albert Einstein. But MRI scans, PET scans and other imaging studies show no dormant areas of the brain, and even viewing individual neurons or cells reveals no inactive areas, the new paper points out. Metabolic studies of how brain cells process chemicals show no nonfunctioning areas. The myth probably originated with self-improvement hucksters in the early 1900s who wanted to convince people that they had yet not reached their full potential, Carroll figures. It also doesn't jibe with the fact that our other organs run at full tilt.
Myth: You should drink at least eight glasses of water a day.
Fact: "There is no medical evidence to suggest that you need that much water," said Dr. Rachel Vreeman, a pediatrics research fellow at the university and co-author of the journal article. Vreeman thinks this myth can be traced back to a 1945 recommendation from the Nutrition Council that a person consume the equivalent of 8 glasses (64 ounces) of fluid a day. Over the years, "fluid" turned to water. But fruits and vegetables, plus coffee and other liquids, count.
Myth: Fingernails and hair grow after death.
Fact: Most physicians queried on this one initially thought it was true. Upon further reflection, they realized it's impossible. Here's what happens: "As the body's skin is drying out, soft tissue, especially skin, is retracting," Vreeman said. "The nails appear much more prominent as the skin dries out. The same is true, but less obvious, with hair. As the skin is shrinking back, the hair looks more prominent or sticks up a bit."
Myth: Shaved hair grows back faster, coarser and darker.
Fact: A 1928 clinical trial compared hair growth in shaved patches to growth in non-shaved patches. The hair which replaced the shaved hair was no darker or thicker, and did not grow in faster. More recent studies have confirmed that one. Here's the deal: When hair first comes in after being shaved, it grows with a blunt edge on top, Carroll and Vreeman explain. Over time, the blunt edge gets worn so it may seem thicker than it actually is. Hair that's just emerging can be darker too, because it hasn't been bleached by the sun.
Myth: Reading in dim light ruins your eyesight.
Fact: The researchers found no evidence that reading in dim light causes permanent eye damage. It can cause eye strain and temporarily decreased acuity, which subsides after rest.
Myth: Eating turkey makes you drowsy.
Fact: Even Carroll and Vreeman believed this one until they researched it. The thing is, a chemical in turkey called tryptophan is known to cause drowsiness. But turkey doesn't contain any more of it than does chicken or beef. This myth is fueled by the fact that turkey is often eaten with a colossal holiday meal, often accompanied by alcohol — both things that will make you sleepy.
Myth: Mobile phones are dangerous in hospitals.
Fact: There are no known cases of death related to this one. Cases of less-serious interference with hospital devices seem to be largely anecdotal, the researchers found. In one real study, mobile phones were found to interfere with 4 percent of devices, but only when the phone was within 3 feet of the device. A more recent study, this year, found no interference in 300 tests in 75 treatment rooms. To the contrary, when doctors use mobile phones, the improved communication means they make fewer mistakes.
I'm so sad and depressed
Is all I want to do is rest
I go to sleep at night
But my dreams I just can't fight
I think of you lying in that bed
And wonder if there is anything I could have said
I wish you were still here
But I know that you are still near
I love you more than you know
I just wish you didn't have to go
I just want one more day with you
And I know thats what you would have wanted too
I miss you more and more each day
There is so much more we had to say
I know I will see you again
But my life is just started to begin
Food Expenditure for One Week in Many Country
Posted by Bobby Hamasaki at 15:54 Labels: Amazing Facts
15 Fun Messages to Leave on Your Answering Machine
Posted by Bobby Hamasaki at 22:28 Labels: Intermezzo1. My wife and I can't come to the phone right now, but if you'll leave your name and number, we'll get back to you as soon as we're finished.
2. A is for academics, B is for beer. One of those reasons is why we're not here. So leave a message.
3. Hi. This is John: If you are the phone company, I already sent the money. If you are my parents, please send money. If you are my financial aid institution, you didn't lend me enough money. If you are my friends, you owe me money. If you are a female seeking a date or friendship, don't worry, I have plenty of money.
4. "Hi. Now you say something."
5. "Hi, I'm not home right now but my answering machine is, so you can talk to it instead. Wait for the beep."
6. "Hello. I am David's answering machine. What are you?"
7. (From Japanese friend ) He-lo! This is Sa-to. If you leave message, I call you soon. If you leave sexy message, I call sooner!
8. "Hi! John's answering machine is broken. This is his refrigerator.
9. Please speak very slowly, and I'll stick your message to myself with one of these magnets."
10. "Hello, you are talking to a machine. I am capable of receiving messages. My owners do not need siding, windows, or a hot tub, and their carpets are clean. They give to charity through their office and do not need their picture taken. If you're still with me, leave your name and number and they will get back to you."
11. "This is not an answering machine -this is a telepathic thought-recording device. After the tone, think about your name, your reason for calling and a number where I can reach you, and I'll think about returning your call."
12. "Hi. I am probably home, I'm just avoiding someone I don't like. Leave me a message, and if I don't call back, it's you."
13. "Hi, this is George. I'm sorry I can't answer the phone right now. Leave a message, and then wait by your phone until I call you back."
14. "If you are a burglar, then we're probably at home cleaning our weapons right now and can't come to the phone. Otherwise, we probably aren't home and it's safe to leave us a message."
15. Please leave a message. However, you have the right to remain silent. Everything you say will be recorded and will be used by us. "Even a fish wouldn't get into trouble, if it keeps the mouth shut"
An atheist professor of philosophy speaks to his class on the problem science has with God, The Almighty.
He asks one of his new students to stand and.....
Prof:So you believe in God?
Student: Absolutely, sir.
Prof : Is God good?
Student: Sure.
Prof: Is God all-powerful?
Student : Yes.
Prof: My brother died of cancer even though he prayed to God to heal him. Most of us would attempt to help others who are ill. But God didn't. How is this God good then? Hmm? (Student is silent.)
Prof: You can't answer, can you? Let's start again, young fella. Is God good?
Student: Yes.
Prof: Is Satan good?
Student : No.
Prof: Where does Satan come from?
Student: From... God...
Prof: That's right. Tell me son, is there evil in this world?
Student: Yes.
Prof: Evil is everywhere, isn't it? And God did make everything. Correct?
Student: Yes.
Prof: So who created evil? (Student does not answer.)
Prof: Is there sickness? Immorality? Hatred? Ugliness? All these terrible things exist in the world, don't they?
Student: Yes, sir.
Prof: So, who created them? (Student has no answer.)
Prof: Science says you have 5 senses you use to identify and observe the world around you. Tell me, son...Have you ever seen God?
Student: No, sir.
Prof: Tell us if you have ever heard your God?
Student: No, sir.
Prof: Have you ever felt your God, tasted your God, smelt your God? Have you ever had any sensory perception of God for that matter?
Student: No, sir. I'm afraid I haven't.
Prof: Yet you still believe in Him?
Student: Yes.
Prof: According to empirical, testable, demonstrable protocol, science says your GOD doesn't exist. What do you say to that, son?
Student: Nothing. I only have my faith.
Prof: Yes. Faith. And that is the problem science has.
Student: Professor, is there such a thing as heat?
Prof: Yes.
Student: And is there such a thing as cold?
Prof: Yes.
Student: No sir. There isn't. (The lecture theatre becomes very quiet with this turn of events.)
Student: Sir, you can have lots of heat, even more heat, superheat, mega heat, white heat, a little heat or no heat. But we don't have anything called cold. We can hit 458 degrees below zero which is no heat, but we can't go any further after that. There is no such thing as cold . Cold is only a word we use to describe the absence of heat. We cannot measure cold. Heat is energy . Cold is not the opposite of heat, sir, just the absence of it. (There is pin-drop silence in the lecture theatre.)
Student: What about darkness, Professor? Is there such a thing as darkness?
Prof: Yes. What is night if there isn't darkness?
Student : You're wrong again, sir. Darkness is the absence of something. You can have low light, normal light, bright light, flashing light.... But if you have no light constantly, you have nothing and it's called darkness, isn't it? In reality, darkness isn't. If it were you would be able to make darkness darker, wouldn't you?
Prof: So what is the point you are making, young man?
Student: Sir, my point is your philosophical premise is flawed.
Prof: Flawed? Can you explain how?
Student: Sir, you are working on the premise of duality. You argue there is life and then there is death, a good God and a bad God. You are viewing the concept of God as something finite, something we can measure. Sir, science can't even explain a thought. It uses electricity and magnetism, but has never seen, much less fully understood either one.To view death as the opposite of life is to be ignorant of the fact that death cannot exist as a substantive thing. Death is not the opposite of life: just the absence of it. Now tell me, Professor. Do you teach your students that they evolved from a monkey?
Prof: If you are referring to the natural evolutionary process, yes, of course, I do.
Student: Have you ever observed evolution with your own eyes, sir? (The Professor shakes his head with a smile, beginning to realize where the argument is going.)
Student: Since no one has ever observed the process of evolution at work and cannot even prove that this process is an on-going endeavor, are you not teaching your opinion, sir? Are you not a scientist but a preacher? (The class is in uproar.)
Student: Is there anyone in the class who has ever seen the Professor's brain? (The class breaks out into laughter.)
Student : Is there anyone here who has ever heard the Professor's brain, felt it, touched or smelt it? No one appears to have done so. So, according to the established rules of empirical, stable, demonstrable protocol, science says that you have no brain,sir. With all due respect, sir, how do we then trust your lectures, sir? (The room is silent. The professor stares at the student, his face unfathomable.)
Prof: I guess you'll have to take them on faith, son.
Student: That is it sir... The link between man & god is FAITH. That is all that keeps things moving & alive.
Life is a Theater So Invite Your Audiences Carefully
Posted by Bobby Hamasaki at 05:20 Labels: ReflectionLife is a theater so invite your audiences carefully.
Not everyone is holy enough and
healthy enough to have a
FRONT ROW seat in our lives.
There are some people in your life
that need to be loved from a distance.
It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go,
or at least minimize your time with
draining, negative, incompatible,
not-going-anywhere relationships,
friendships, fellowships and family!
Observe the relationships around you.
Pay attention to: Which ones lift and which ones lean?
Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?
Which ones are on a path of growth uphill
and which ones are just going downhill?
When you leave certain people,
do you feel better or feel worse?
Which ones always have drama
or don't really understand,
know and appreciate you
and the gift that lies within you?
The more you seek the things of God,
the more you seek quality,
the more you seek things honorable,
the more you seek growth,
peace of mind, love and truth around you,
the easier it will become for you
to decide who gets to sit in the FRONT ROW
and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.
You cannot change the people around you
but you can change the people you are around!
Ask God for wisdom and discernment and
choose wisely the people
who sit in the FRONT ROW of your life.
Remember that FRONT ROW seats are for special
and deserving people and those who sit
in your FRONT ROW should be chosen carefully.
"I shall pass through this world but once.
If therefore, there be any kindness I can show,
or any good thing I can do, let me do it now...
for I shall not pass this way again."
Thank you for being in my front row...
Once upon a time, a man in a hot air balloon realized that he was lost.
He reduced altitude and spotted a woman below. He descended a bit more
and shouted. "Excuse me, can you help me? I promised a friend I would
meet him an hour ago, but I don't know where I am."
The woman below replied. "You're in a hot air balloon hovering
approximately 30 feet above the ground. You're between 50 and 51
degrees north latitude and between 114 and 115 degrees west longitude."
"You must be an engineer," said the balloonist.
"I am," replied the woman. "How did you know?"
"Well," answered the balloonist, "everything you told me is technically
correct, but I've no idea what to make use of your information.
The fact is, I'm still lost. Frankly, you've not been much help at all. If
anything, you've delayed my trip."
The woman below responded, "You must be in management."
"I am," replied the balloonist, "but how did you know?"
"Well," said the woman, "you don't know where you are or where you're
going. You have risen to where you are due to a large quantity of hot
air. You made a promise, which you've no idea how to keep, and you
expect people beneath you to solve your problems. The fact is, you are
in exactly the same position you were in before we met, but now,
somehow, you've managed to make it my fault!!"
Light on the outside, Light on the inside.
With God's Sunlight Shining on you,
May Your Heart glow with Warmth,
Like a Turf Fire that
Welcomes friends and strangers alike.
May the Light of the Lord
Shine from your eyes,
Like a candle in the Window,
welcoming the weary Traveler.
May the Blessing of God's soft rain be on you,
Falling gently on your head,
Refreshing your Soul with the sweetness
of little flowers newly blooming.
May the strength of the winds of Heaven Bless you,
carrying the rain to wash your Spirit clean,
Sparkling after in the Sunlight.
May the Blessing of God's Earth be on you,
and as you walk the roads, may you
always have a Kind word for those you meet.
May you understand the Strength and
Power of God in a Thunderstorm and in Winter,
and the Quiet beauty of Creation,
and the Calm of a Summer Sunset.
And may you come to realize that insignificant
as you may seem in this Great Universe,
You are an Important part of God's Plan.
May He Watch over you,
and keep you Safe from Harm.
A photo from a camera with pictures that had been taken on the trade building of a tourist and the plane is heading behind him to hit the building. The camera was found by rescue workers and developed. I received this e-mail from a retired firefighter neighbor of ours who received it from a firefighter he worked with in Coronado, CA. He volunteered to be on the search and rescue mission and is there for 10 days. It is hard to believe it when you see it and wonder if the person taking the picture realized the plane was going to hit the center. They still don't know who the person is. Continue Reading......
by Joel Osteen
source : Lakewood Church Weekly Video Podcast
download available : #407 - Activating Faith Instead of Fear (161.73 MB)
We have many opportunities each day to worry and live in fear, from being worried about the economy and our health to our family and children, the list could go on and on! But did you know faith and fear have something in common? They both ask us to believe something is going to happen that we cannot see. Fear says, "Business is slow. You're going to go under." But faith says, "Your best days are still out in front of you." When we give in to thoughts of fear, our perspective becomes distorted. Fear is like a fog. It makes things look worse than what they really are. It might look intimidating, but there is nothing really to it, just a bunch of vapors that can fit in a small glass. Use your energy to believe and not worry. Our God is all-powerful. He has brought you through in the past, and He is going to bring you through in the future. Surround yourself with people of faith who will speak victory into your life. If you'll be disciplined in your thought life and learn to choose faith instead of fear, you're going be filled with a constant peace and confidence. You were created for a life of victory, not to have your enthusiasm and joy stolen by fear. Choose to walk in faith today. Remember, it takes the same amount of energy to worry as it does to have faith. So switch your gears to having faith and trusting God. God works everything out for good and to your advantage!
Having rough times in your relationship? Everyone have these periods but don't think breaking up just because some small issues because there are many ways to save a relationship and I will point some of them.
1.Communication: The most important way to save a relationship is communication. You must talk with your partner, because communication is the thing that builds, improves or destroy a relationship. You can solve all the problems that you have in your relationship if you just communicate.
2.Forgiveness: Forgive the mistakes of your partner because we all make mistakes and you could make a wrong step too. You mustn't break up just because one mistake of your partner.
3.Trust: In every relationship, marriage, friendship, trust is the most important quality. If you want your partner to trust you, you must trust him too.
4.Show Your Feelings: If you want a serious relationship then you must show your partner that you care about him, that you love him.
5.Give Gifts: Even a flower can make your girlfriend love you more. In case you have a boyfriend, then I think a RC car or some collectibles will make him like a little boy.
6.Be Honest: You mustn't lie. If you really want a serious relationship and a long one, then you will shorten the life of your relationship. Why lie? I personally don't lie and I feel very good.The truth is better then a short time lie.
7.Sharing Your Problems: Share your problems with your partner. Try to open your soul in front of your partner because this will make your relationship stronger and it's the base of a solid relationship.
These are just a few ways to save a relationship, but all of them are efficient and if you use them you will have a strong and long relationship and you will save your relationship.
>NOTE: I think that the internet is a literal
MIRACLE when it comes to meeting women, practicing
conversations skills, and learning how to create
attraction using only your words, humor, and other
communication. If you'd like to learn some of my
personal secrets for turning the internet into a
dating BONANZA for yourself, then take a minute
and read this:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/MeetingWomenOnline
***QUESTION***
Hey David,
I was wondering if you could offer any wisdom on
what you've gained from writing and responding to
online personal ads. I'm not having a great deal
of luck so far. Specifically, my questions are:
1. How brief should your descriptions of yourself
and/or your ideal catch be? I've heard it said
that "brevity is the soul of wit", but you also
want to be memorable, right?
2. When writing descriptions, should you stick
with C&F? I've noticed that humor often doesn't
translate well in written form, so I wasn't sure
how to go about all that.
3. I think I read in a previous newsletter that
you recommend not posting a picture. At the same
time, I tend to avoid ads without pictures due to
having one too many blind dates which ended with
me throwing a stick and shouting "fetch!" in order
to distract her long enough to get away. Don't you
think that by committing a picture on your ad,
women might pass you up for the same reason? Or am
I mistaken? An apprentice,
J.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You've asked some questions that really require
more of an in-depth treatment... but here are a
few pointers that have taken me YEARS to figure
out:
1) You'll get more responses in general by
replying to personal ads placed by women than you
will by placing your own ad (Unless you're a
master of writing personal ads).
2) If you're going to use the personals, look at
the new ads that are placed daily, and respond as
soon as a woman places her ad. Attractive women
typically get 50-100 responses per DAY to personal
ads, and it's very easy to get overwhelmed. You'll
notice that a lot of women take their ads down
after just a few days... this is why.
3) Be charming and funny (also known as COCKY and
funny) in your replies (or in your ad, if you
write your own). Say things like "I was looking
through all these ads here on the internet
thinking to myself "Look at all the poor,
desperate, lonely women..." and then I saw your ad
and thought to myself "Hey, here's a poor,
desperate, lonely woman that's actually CUTE..."
so I thought I'd write and see if you're as
interesting on the inside as you are in this
picture..."
4) I mentioned in one of recent newsletters that I
got an email from a guy who had his picture taken
with some dolphins... and that he's getting tons
of responses from that. I've never done it myself,
but it sounds like a great idea!
***QUESTION***
Dave, love your book. I have learned more about
women in the last two months than I knew in my
lifetime. The teasing and being cocky/funny really
turns them on. I have know this girl for some time
and we were mostly friends. Just lately she said
to me "I love you R,". Is it ok for me to tell her
I love her too or is it better to say nothing and
just smile which I did so far.
R.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Take a cue from Han Solo...
Say "I know".
You might throw in a sly half-smile to let her
know that you're having fun after you say it.
As far as your question of "Is it OK to tell
her that I love her too?" I can't answer that.
You're at a stage that is past our topic here.
I think that love and relationships are great,
but since this isn't the area that I choose to
talk about, you're going to have to decide for
yourself.
Just don't turn into a wussy... that's bad no
matter what.
***COMMENT***
It seems like a lot of the guys who subscribe to
your newsletter and buy the book - myself included
- are average guys who have trouble with girls
just because they are afraid of getting rejected.
I've got an idea that might help. Get two or three
good friends together and have a 'contest' where
the goal is to get shot down. Spend a day or a
night out in clubs, coffee shops, malls, etc.
going up to girls with the sole intention of
having them reject you, and whoever gets rejected
the most times wins. Try out any approach - good
or bad - you can think of. Be rude, crude, funny,
serious, a nice guy, a jerk, whatever you want,
and take notes on how the girls react. If she
slaps your face, that's fine because that's the
goal. And if she doesn't shoot you down, that's
even better. After a night like this you'll become
a bit 'numb' when you are rejected in the future,
and you'll have a better understanding of how
girls react to being hit on. If necessary go to a
different city for the weekend and try it out
there, so that you aren't afraid of running into
these girls again.
- C.L.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I think that the basic idea is good, but I'd
say that you're probably better off seeing who can
get the most email addresses - instead of seeing
who can get shut down.
If you go out with the specific idea of being
rude, crude, a jerk, etc., I think you're working
on the wrong outcome.
I get what you're saying about how this might
make you "numb" to future rejection...
But I think you'll learn a lot more if you take
the approach of "We're each going to approach 50
women today, and let's see who can get the most
email addresses". Focus on what you want, not what
you don't want.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
First off, I want to thank you for spreading your
wisdom. I bought your book two weeks ago after
reading several of your newsletters, and it was
the answer to most of my prayers. I've gone from
dating a girl maybe two women in a year, to dating
3 women at once, all 3 call me every day, and this
was before I even bought the book, just from the
advice from your emails!! You have definitely
"Doubled" my dating!!
My question, one girl in particular I find really
attractive and the most challenging (which I like)
still has a "Control Freak" boyfriend, with whom I
think she's afraid to break up with. He's the kind
of guy that would threaten to kill himself if she
were to leave him, but basically uses her for sex,
and controls most aspects of her life. Should I
just stop talking to her? Or keep bustin her balls
about why she's still with him? Because I find
myself feeling some sort of sympathy for her, and
its affecting my "cocky and funny" routine (with
her at least).
Thanks for your help!!
C. from MD
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Let me ask you a question...
Why in the world would you want to be with a
woman who has a "suicidal control freak" boyfriend
fetish?
When you meet a woman like this, the warning
bells should be going off in your head... "Danger
Will Robinson, Danger!"
Do yourself a HUGE favor. Find a woman who's
interesting and "challenging" like her that
DOESN'T have a psycho neurotic boyfriend... and
don't turn into one.
***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
I just wanted to say thank you, from all the women
out here in single land. Out of curiosity, I
clicked on a link from (another website) to see
what all this great advice was about. just from
reading about your "kiss test" I knew you had
figured it out. I like being hit on by a confident
assertive man. I also like a man who can figure it
out that I'm not interested. Honestly, I will
fall over and spread my legs for any man that does
the right things whether he's extremely attractive
or not. I would never tell him how to do it. I
guess that's your job. Anyway, like I said, I just
wanted to thank you. I personally hope I get hit
on in the grocery store by someone who has read
your book!
Thanks,
K.H.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, thank you for your letter. I truly
appreciate your honesty and directness.
Most men can't believe that what you're saying
could actually be true, but as we both know, it
quite often is.
The interesting thing you say (which I agree
with) is:
"I would never tell him how to do it."
In other words, A WOMAN WILL NEVER TEACH A
WUSSY BOY WHO DOESN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO THE SECRETS
OF GETTING HER.
Translation for guys: If you don't know what
you're doing when it comes to women, LEARN.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
I have been reading your articles and from other
guys out there trying to improve their macking
skills, your articles and tips are on point on how
to be a mack with the ladies, but I feel that
because of a negative experiences with women in my
teenage and college years, really hold me back
from being the mack that is inside of me along,
now in my mid-twenties, I need to get passed this
negative experiences with women, I have no problem
talking to women or having a conversation, but i
don't have my own place, my income is very low at
this moment, this make it even harder for me,
could you give me some advice to get pass this
fear that because i have very little now plus the
past experience with women in the past, plus I
live in nyc where women are into themselves, and a
man without his own place, car, and little money
are looked at like "why are you talking to me, you
have nothing to offer me."
M.
nyc
>>>MY COMMENTS:
First of all, YES, there are women who will
only talk to you if you have money...
BUT THIS IS NOT THE RULE... IT'S THE EXCEPTION.
If a woman feels the magical emotion of
ATTRACTION, then it matters not how much money you
have.
I used to believe that it was probably only
guys who had nice cars and lots of cash who got to
go out with all the women...
But then, as I got to know more and more guys
who were VERY successful with women. I realized
that it came down to their personalities more than
anything else... including looks, height, money,
etc.
In fact, MOST of the guys who I've met that are
very successful with women aren't rich at all.
You need to learn how to make women feel
ATTRACTION by using your personality. That's the
ticket.
Really.
Go download this right now and read it all:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AttractionBook
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave:
I have been reading your material for a few months
now. One of the best things I learned about your
work is how to get e-mail addresses and phone
numbers from women. I have great success at this
point. This has also helped my business. I need
help in two areas that involves taking it to the
next level. I want to meet a nice girl and settle
down. Firstly, how can I figure out which one of
these girls is the BEST for me in terms of
personality and chemistry. My last relationship
lasted a year and a half and did not work because
we were always busting each others chops.
Secondly, I think there is a point when we just
need to stop playing games and be nice to these
women... What do you think?
B. NYC
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, I'm not the relationship expert, so I'm
not going to address how you should choose a woman
to settle down with...
But I will comment on your question of whether
or not there is a point when you should stop
"playing games" and "be nice to these women".
The mind set and techniques that I teach are
not
my idea of a "short term technique to get laid".
Once you start using the methods, you'll find that
women respond to them on an ONGOING basis. In
other words, if you can keep up the charming,
Cocky and Funny attitude, it will keep a woman
feeling attracted to you FOREVER.
"Nice" is not a word that you want associated
with yourself, in my opinion. Women aren't
ATTRACTED to guys who are "nice".
Be interesting, unpredictable... even
thoughtful and original.
But don't be NICE.
Think about it.
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave,
Well, let me start with my story. I'm average guy,
22years old. I always had the fear to approach
beautiful women. I'm funny by nature, but only
with my friends. I've totally changed my behavior
with women, when I've read your book. I now meet
women on every step (bar, caffe, library,...),
using your C&F approach and a lot of them are in
my bed in a week or so. Now the only problem at
the moment is, that all of those women want a
commitment. But I would love to be just a "sex-
buddy";). Of course, they don't want to hear about
that. So after first sex, when I try to explain to
her, what I want, either she gets mad and I can go
;) or I am the biggest male egoist... bla bla bla.
So, tell me, is there any way to do that with
success? Tnx again,
B. from Slovenia
>>>MY COMMENTS:
If you're at that stage where you'd like to use
your newly found success to attract only "sex
buddies"... and you don't want the women you date
to think of you as their "boyfriend", then DON'T
ACT LIKE ONE.
Don't call more than once or twice a week.
Don't stay on the phone for more than 5 or 10
minutes. Don't see her more than once or twice a
week.
In other words, DON'T ACT LIKE A BOYFRIEND.
I know this sounds rather simple, but think
about it...
Women are just as interested in sex as men are.
In my experience, if a woman knows that you're
only interested in sex, she'll be OK with that.
The problems come up when you start calling all
the time, seeing her a lot, and acting like you
care for her...
At this point a woman starts to become
emotionally attached to you. She thinks that
you're becoming her boyfriend.
If you don't want to be a boyfriend, then don't
act like one!
***QUESTION***
Hello,
Your are the man. I have been using your cocky
funny method on girls i already know and see the
difference in the way they act towards me, they
seem to definitely be more interested. My dilemma
is that i run out of cocky comments and little
jokes. For eg i went to the coffee shop yesterday
with one of my buddies and there were two cute
girls in front of us who smiled at us when we
where in line and i looked back and smiled but i
had no idea what to say to them or what to make
fun of and they got what they wanted and left. I
simply had no idea what funny comment to make.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Here's the answer...
List the 10 most common situations that you'd
find yourself meeting women... and list 10 cocky
and funny things to say in each situation.
Next, mentally rehearse each of the comments so
you have them ready!
If you are at the stage where Cocky and Funny
doesn't come "naturally", then you're going to
have to PRACTICE.
Why do Michael Jordan and Tiger Woods make
their sports look EASY? Why do they TOTALLY
dominate all of the other players around them?
Practice, of course.
Stop trying to create magic from nothing, and
start practicing. Practice makes magic.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
Because of my job, I am on the road a lot. Lots of
times I like to drive with the windows down, music
blasting and just taking in the sun. Many times I
find myself waiting at a stop light with a good-
looking girl waiting next to me. Some of these
girls, we make eye contact, others just glance
over. Sometimes I'll drive for miles with the same
girl to the side of me. The problem is I never
really know what to do next. So I guess my
question to you is this:
1. How do I get her to roll down her window? 2.
Once she does, what should I tell her?
I drive an average car (VW Jetta) so I know
they're not looking at that, but I'm just
uncertain how to get her attention.
Thanks for the help.
R. in So Cal
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Oh, you can have a lot of fun with this one.
I have a good friend who can't drive up next to
a woman without flirting. He likes to "waggle his
eyebrows" at every woman he sees.
Next time you're next to a cutie, waggle your
brows and wave. When she smiles, make the old
fashioned motion of rolling down your window to
her, and roll down yours.
Finally, take out your cell phone, point to it,
and say "What's your number?"
I've done variations of this myself, and had
some great fun success with it.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
You ARE da man! Although I have not purchased the
e-book yet, I will soon, as I have seen the magic
work firsthand, just from the newsletters I have
been getting. Check this out! About a week ago, I
send an email to a totally rad chick suggesting
that we meet for coffee. I used the movie "You've
Got Mail" as part of my "schtick", and although it
was "cute" and "funny," I realized later that it
was actually quite "wussy-ish." After getting NO
REPLY for almost a week, I sent her ANOTHER email,
this time busting her balls a bit by saying, "Well
I guess my dazzling good looks and wicked sense of
humor didn't catch your fancy, eh?" The response
was lightning fast and almost instantaneous!!! She
wrote that she had every intention of returning my
email, but she was "out of town" blah blah blah,
and she would meet me for coffee sometime. I
really believe that if I had not sent her that
second email, I never would have gotten a reply to
the first one.
Here's the question (and problem): In addition to
the "ball busting" in my second email, I also told
her I liked her! (a big faux pas, I know, but I
never expected a reply!) She had taught a class of
which I was a student, and I made a comment like,
"Well I'm probably not the first of your students
to have a crush on the teacher." Now that the
cat's out of the bag, how do I diffuse this
damaging admission? I already sent her a reply
email, in which I poured on the cocky/funny, but I
wanted to get your input and hopefully I made the
right choice by my reply.
Thanks Dave!
--C.K. San Francisco, CA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
lol... the best thing you can do is GO MEET 10
MORE WOMEN!!!
Duh!
And what are you doing writing to me asking for
advice on how to un-screw-up your situation... and
you haven't even read my book? Go to:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/eBook
RIGHT NOW and get it. You are doing great, you
just need to get some of the details together.
And as for your teacher, STOP SAYING THAT YOU
LIKE HER! And start acting like the Cocky and
Funny guy that make her respond to you!
***QUESTION***
Dear Dave,
I just started receiving your newsletter. And I
was just curious about the letters that are coming
in. Are these letters from real guys or is it
something that 's written by your staff just to
sell your ebook? I can't honestly believe a book
can really do that much for a guy. I get another
newsletter on dating women and this guy doesn't
seem to profess the "cocky" attitude you write
about.
Anyway, just to let you know who I am. I am a 50
yr young man. I'm 5'7" , good shape and health.
Have all my hair and teeth. I'm a nice guy but I
want to shed that image but not be an asshole if
you know what I mean. I don't want to even tell
you how long it's been since I've been laid. Can
your book really help a guy like me? I've been
going on the online dating seen but don't always
see what I want which is a sexy young woman. Also,
how young can I acceptably go. Anything you can
tell me would be a help.
Sign me,
Not getting enough
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I love letters like this one...
OK, to answer your first question... EVERY
SINGLE LETTER THAT I PRINT IN EVERY SINGLE ONE OF
MY NEWSLETTERS IS REAL. I NEVER INVENT THEM.
I have every one of the originals saved to
prove it.
To answer one of your comments of "I can't
believe that a book can really do that much for a
guy"...
IT CAN'T. The BOOK isn't what does it.
It's a combination of the material in the book
and actually TAKING ACTION ON IT AND USING IT.
It's taken me YEARS of trial and error...
trying just about everything under the sun to
learn the things that I've learned. I really went
out there and did the work.
I tried and tested everything I could find...
If you're reading this right now, and it's time
for YOU to get this part of YOUR life handled, and
finally start enjoying the kind of success with
women that you've only dreamed about it the past,
then maybe it's time for you to TAKE ACTION.
If you'd like to get a behind-the-scenes look
into the minds of women, and you'd like to learn
the techniques for attracting women and creating
ATTRACTION that it's taken me literally YEARS to
figure out, then I'd recommend you go and check
out my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD program.
This program is a "condensed education" that
has taken me a LONG time to organize, prepare, and
create.
Instead of spending years of your OWN time and
spending (or rather WASTING) a lot of money... and
dealing with the pain of trial-and-error, you can
save yourself a LOT of frustration...
This program contains literally HUNDREDS and
HUNDREDS of step-by-step techniques for overcoming
fears and improving your self image, approaching
women, meeting women online, getting dates, and
taking things to a "physical level" smoothly and
without rejection.
You can check out some great free audio and
video clips from it here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AdvancedSeries
And if you haven't downloaded your copy of my
online eBook "Double Your Dating", then you need
to go and do that RIGHT NOW. You can download it
and be reading it in just a few minutes... it's
here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/eBook
...and download it now.
And I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
Many are unaware of poisoning caused by re-using plastic bottles. Some of you maybe in the habit of using and re-using your disposable mineral water bottles (e.g. Nestle, Bisleri, Aquafina, Kinley, Evian, etc...), keeping them in your car or at work. Not a good idea. It happened in Dubai, when a 12 year old girl died after a long usage (16 months) of SAFA mineral water bottle, as she used to carry the same fancy (painted by herself) bottle to her school daily.
In a nutshell, the plastic (called polyethylene terephthalate or PET) used in these bottles contains a potentially carcinogenic element (something called diethyihydroxylamine or DEHA). The bottles are safe for one-time use only; if you must keep them longer, it should be or no more than a few days, week max, and keep them away from heat as well. Repeated washing and rinsing can cause the plastic to break down and the carcinogens (cancer-causing chemical agents) can leak into the water that YOU are drinking.
Better to invest in water bottles that are really meant for multiple uses. This is not something we should be scrimping on. Those of you with family - do please advise them, especially children. Please forward this information. Prevention is better than cure.
All men and women on earth die and go to heaven.
God comes and says :
"I want the men to form two queues, one line for the men who had control over their women, and the other one for the men who were controlled by their women. Also, I want all the women to go away so that no man and woman can talk."
Next time God comes back, the women are gone, and there are two lines. The line for the men who were controlled by their women is 100 miles long, and in the line of men who had control over their women there is only one man.
God gets mad and says, "You men should be ashamed of yourselves. I created you in my image, and you were all controlled by your mates. Look at the only one of my sons who stood up and made me proud. Learn from him!"
"Tell them, my son, how did you manage to be the only one in this line?"
The man replies, "I don't know, my wife told me to stand here."
I've always heard that "public speaking" is the number one most common fear. According to a recent survey I conducted in my e-newsletter, however, this is not the case. Overwhelmingly my readership chose "failure."
Like public speaking, failure is not inherently bad. We're conditioned to avoid it, but there are plenty of reasons to change our perspective. Here are nine advantages to failing:
1. Failure teaches us. Two words I will never misspell are "flexible" and "exchequer." Why? Because each word knocked me out of a junior high spelling bee. Failure creates an emotional experience, so the lessons we learn when it happens stick. Additionally, going through failure narrows down the possible approaches to success. Scientists rely on trial and error in their research. Each failed experiment brings them a little closer to revolutionary breakthroughs. Think of your own efforts as experiments. When you don't get the desired result, figure out why. Then try again with your new knowledge.
2. Failure reveals our ability. You'll never know how much weight you can lift until you reach an amount you can't. Trainers often refer to this as "lifting to failure." Pushing yourself as far as you can lets you know what's possible. By avoiding limits, you'll never reach your peak. The fear of failure stops us a lot shorter than failure itself. So keep going until nothing more is possible. Then celebrate what you've accomplished.
3. Failure makes us stronger. Those same weight lifters who lift to failure also have learned that is the way they build muscle. At first the tissue is damaged, but it'll heal bigger and stronger than before. Soon the athlete will be able to lift more weight. The same is true for our pursuits. Failure strengthens our character. We humans bounce higher than we fall. Know that with each effort, you grow a little stronger.
4. Failure inspires us. When we don't let discouragement hold us back, failure makes our desire burn hotter. Often this inspiration is a wish to avoid another failure. Many people don't know that Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team. "It was good because it made me know what disappointment felt like," he told the Chicago Tribune. "And I knew that I didn't want to have that feeling ever again." This led to a work ethic that would elevate him to legendary status. If failure makes you work harder or focus more, it's an experience with tremendous value.
5. Failure inspires others. Leaders must take risks. Even when they don't succeed, their courage can still make a difference. In 1980, 18-year-old Terry Fox attempted to raise $1 million for cancer research by running across the entire length of Canada on a prosthetic leg. He ran 3339 miles before a relapsed cancer ended his quest. He lost his life, but his effort has inspired over $340 million in donations to date. His "failure" was hardly in vain.
6. Failure builds courage. Becoming more comfortable with failing enables you to take more risks. If you know you can stomach it, it will no longer threaten you. I used to take groups through ropes courses, requiring them to pursue physical challenges thirty feet off the ground. Often participants would fail at the first high event. While some got discouraged, others discovered that failing wasn't so bad. They were proud for having tried in the first place. Knowing that failure was an option made it easier for them to try the next event. Their courage came not from achieving success, but from their willingness to pursue to it. If you're open to failing, you'll readily take more chances.
7. Failure is better than regret. The times I've been denied an opportunity never felt as bad as when I've let opportunities pass me by. At least when we fail, we know. Not trying at all leaves us wondering. Avoid kicking yourself later by taking a leap today.
8. Failure leaves us open to better opportunities. I was once turned down for a job for which I thought I was the perfect candidate. While unemployment can be scary, rejection can be humiliating. After a few weeks of frustration, I was offered another position I hadn't pursued. This opportunity was more interesting and considerably more lucrative. Without an awareness of the big picture, it's easy to perceive failure as misfortune. Maybe it's nature's way of making sure we wind up where we're best suited.
9. Failure makes success a little sweeter. We appreciate victory more when we've tasted defeat. Life wouldn't be fun if things always worked out. Know that your failure is just part of the game we're all playing. We expend a lot of energy running from failure. Try embracing it. Find the opportunity in the adversity. If there's a recipe for success, failure might be its primary ingredient.
You know the names of all states but do you know where any of them come from?
ALABAMA: Possibly from the Creek Indian word alibamo, meaning "we stay here".
ALASKA: From the Aleutian word alakshak, which means "great lands," or "land that is not an island".
ARIZONA: Taken either from the Pima Indian words ali shonak, meaning "little spring," or from the Aztec word arizuma, meaning "silver-bearing".
ARKANSAS: The French somehow coined it from the name of the Siouan Quapaw tribe.
CALIFORNIA: According to one theory, Spanish settlers names it after a utopian society described in a popular 16th-century novel called Serged de Esplandian.
COLORADO: Means "red" in Spanish. The name was originally applied to the Colorado River, whose waters are reddish with canyon clay.
CONNECTICUT: Taken from the Mohican word kuenihtekot, which means "long river place".
DELAWARE: Named after Lord De La Warr, a governor of Virginia. Originally used only to name the Delaware River.
FLORIDA: Explorer Ponce de Leon named the state Pascua Florida – "Flowery Easter" on Easter Sunday in 1513.
GEORGIA: Named after King George II of England, who charted the colony in 1732.
HAWAII: An English adaptation of the native word Owyhee, which means "homeland".
IDAHO: Possibly taken from the Kiowa Apache word for the Comanche Indians.
ILLINOIS: The French b******ization of the Algonquin word illini, which means "men".
INDIANA: Named by English-speaking settlers because the territory was full of Indians.
IOWA: The Sioux word for "beautiful land," or "one who puts to sleep".
KANSAS: Taken from the Sioux word for "south wind people," their name for anyone who lived south of Sioux territory.
KENTUCKY: Possibly derived from the Indian word kan-tuk-kee, meaning "dark and bloody ground." Or kan-tuc-kec, "land of green reeds", or ken-take, meaning "meadowland".
LOUISIANA: Named after French King Louis XIV.
MAINE: The Old French word for "province".
MARYLAND: Named after Queen Henrietta Maria, wife of English King George I.
MASSACHUSETTS: Named after the Massachusetts Indian tribe. Means "large hill place".
MICHIGAN: Most likely from the Chippewa word for "great water." micigama.
MINNESOTA: From the Sioux word for "sky tinted" or "muddy water".
MISSISSIPPI: Most likely taken from the Chippewa words mici ("great") and zibi ("river").
MISSOURI: From the Algonquin word for "muddy water".
MONTANA: Taken from the Latin word for "mountainous".
NEBRASKA: From the Otos Indian word for "broad water".
NEVADA: Means "snow-clad" in Spanish.
NEW HAMPSHIRE: Capt. John Mason, one of the original colonists, named it after his English home county of Hampshire.
NEW JERSEY: Named after the English Isle of Jersey.
NEW MEXICO: The Spanish name for the territory north of the Rio Grande.
NEW YORK: Named after the Duke of York and Albany.
NORTH AND SOUTH CAROLINA: From the Latin name Carolus; named in honor of King Charles I of England.
NORTH AND SOUTH DAKOTA: Taken from the Sioux word for "friend," or "ally".
OHIO: Means "great," "fine" or "Good River" in Iroquois.
OKLAHOMA. The Choctaw word for "red man".
OREGON: Possibly derived from Ouaricon-sint, the French name for the Wisconsin River.
PENNSYLVANIA: Named after William Penn, Sr., the father of the colony’s founder, William Penn. Means "Penn’s woods".
RHODE ISLAND: Named "Roode Eylandt" (Red Island) because of its red clay.
TENNESSEE: Named after the Cherokee tanasi villages along the banks of the Little Tennessee River.
TEXAS: Derived from the Caddo Indian word for "friend," or "ally."
UTAH: Means "upper," or "higher," and was originally the name that Navajos called the Shoshone tribe.
VERMONT: A combination of the French words vert ("green") and mont ("mountain").
VIRGINIA AND WEST VIRGINIA: Named after Queen Elizabeth I of England, the "virgin" queen, by Sir Walter Raleigh in 1584.
WASHINGTON: Named after George Washington.
WISCONSIN: Taken from the Chippewa word for "grassy place".
WYOMING: Derived from the Algonquin word for "large prairie place".
At a training program for top management.
A well-known motivational speaker gathering the entire crowd's attention,
said, "The best years of my life were spent in the arms of a woman who wasn't my wife!"
The crowd was shocked!
He followed up by saying, "That woman was my mother!"
The crowd burst into laughter and he gave his speech, which was well received.
About a week later, one of the top managers who had the training decided to
use that joke at his house. He tried to rehearse the joke in his head. It was a bit foggy to him.
He said loudly, "The greatest years of my life were spent in the arms of a
woman who was not my wife!"
Naturally, his wife was shell shocked, murmuring.
After standing there for almost 10 seconds trying to recall the second half
of the joke, the manager finally blurted out "... and I can't remember who she was !"
As expected, he got thrashing of his life time....
Moral of the story: Don't copy if you can't paste
A good heart to be able to be compassionate and fair with the people.
A good spirit to be able to hear the voice of God. Some paths God will lead you down don't make head and heart sense at the time.
A good eye to be able to see things other people cannot.
A good tongue to be able to communicate the vision to the people and motivate them to follow.
A good hand to be able to do the things that need to be done.Knowing the right way is not the same as doing it.
A good foot to set an example for the people. A minor flaw can outshine a major mission in the eyes of small minds.
A man was sleeping at night in his cabin when suddenly his room filled with light and the Savior appeared. The Lord told the man he had work for him to do, and showed him a large rock in front of his cabin. The Lord explained that the man was to push against the rock with all his might. This the man did, day after day. For many years he toiled from sun up to sun down, his shoulders set squarely against the cold, massive surface of the unmoving rock, pushing with all his might. Each night the man returned to his cabin sore, and worn out, feeling that his whole day had been spent in vain.
Seeing that the man was showing signs of discouragement, Satan decided to enter the picture by placing thoughts into the man's mind: "You have been pushing against that rock for a long time, and it hasn't budged. Why kill yourself over this? You are never going to move it." The man began to believe that the task was impossible and that he was a failure, and he felt discouraged and disheartened. "Why kill myself over this?" he thought. "I'll just put in my time, giving just the minimum effort and that will be good enough." And that he planned to do until one day he decided to make it a matter of prayer and take his troubled thoughts to the Lord.
"Lord", he said, "I have labored long and hard in your service, putting all my strength to do that which you have asked. Yet, after all this time, I have not even budged that rock by half a millimeter. What is wrong? Why am I failing?" The Lord responded compassionately, "My friend, when I asked you to serve me and you accepted, I told you that your task was to push against the rock with all your strength, which you have done. Never once did I mention to you that I expected you to move it. Your task was to push. And now you come to me, with your strength spent, thinking that you have failed, but is that really so? Look at yourself. Your arms are strong and muscled, your back sinewy and brown, your hands are callused from constant pressure, and your legs have become massive and hard. Through opposition you have grown much and your abilities now surpass that which you used to have, yet you haven't moved the rock. Your calling was to be obedient and to push and to exercise your faith and trust in My wisdom. This you have done. "I, my friend, will now move the rock."
At times when we hear a word from God, we tend to use our own intellect to decipher what He wants, when actually what God wants is just simple obedience and faith in Him....... By all means, exercise the faith that moves mountains, but remember, it is still God who actually moves them.
As Oswald Chambers said: "God does not call us to be successful, only faithful."
credit cards are also the target of unscrupulous people who want something for nothing. Using credit cards safely needs a little more work than safe guarding your ATM PIN number and card, because unlike the ATM card you do have to give your card to someone else, and that is where the problems may begin.
In fact, credit card fraud is extremely serious, and almost impossible to safe guard against 100% effectively. It is also very closely linked to an even more serious problem - identity theft.
These tips apply equally to when we travel abroad to when we are at home. Remember that all someone needs is your number, of course a little more information is sometimes required but problems can begin with just a credit card number so the first guide to safety is ensuring you stay with your card at all times, and watch how it is used. This can be difficult to do we know, but it really is the only way to help prevent the loss of your card details.
Keep details of your credit card, the number, security number, date of expiration etc. somewhere safe and separate from your wallet, and keep a copy of this information when you travel. Also make a note of the emergency telephone numbers that credit card companies offer in case your card is lost or stolen, check if they have a local office in the destination you are travelling to. If your card is lost or stolen call the company immediately to report it.
When using the credit card online, always ensure that the website is reputable, and that the website uses some form of SSL security which is normally visible by a little padlock appearing in the bottom right of Internet Explorer, the page may also start with https:// instead of the regular http://
Safe guard receipts and destroy carbon copies. This may seem over the top but we actually recommend keeping the receipts in a safe place so you can accurately compare them with the statements you receive and shred the rest. Shredders now are affordable and help to ensure that any confidential information is quite literally shredded. People committing credit card fraud and identity theft often rummage through dustbins and letter boxes.
Don't give out any details about anything to anyone who has called you. If you know the company, ring them back on the general number to make sure that the person calling truly does work for that company.
Always check the amount twice when signing, anyone can make a mistake be it intentionally or by accident.
Always check your billing statement promptly to check there are no suspicious charges. If there is, report it immediately to the credit card company.
Only allow people to use a machine you recognise on your card, skimmers are available that allow people to copy all your card details in seconds. If in doubt, use cash, and happy travelling!
These stories of using your credit cards and ATM cards are not meant to scare you from using them we just hope they encourage you to use them more carefully.
Are you continually struggling to accomplish what is expected of you? If so, stop to think for a moment: who holds those expectations?
Perhaps you're trying to meet the expectations of a parent or a teacher or other authority figures who may be long gone from your life. But many of us toil under the critical eyes of a vague "somebody" who always judges that we've never done enough or done things well enough. Who is this phantom judge? And do we need to care about what they think any longer?
We find both our own power and happiness when we begin to set our own standards around what has heart and meaning for us.
Judge yourself and you see judges everywhere.
But if you listen to the sound of your own voice,
you can rise above doubt and judgment. And you can see forever."
Nancy Kerrigan
"If I get to pick what I want to do, then it's play...
if someone else tells me that I have to do it, then it's work."
Patricia Nourot
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1. Avoid, keeping all your jewellery alltogether in a single box, as hard stones like diamond can give scratches to all other delicate jewellery. Instead wrap each peice of jewellery seperately. Get a jewelry box and/or wrap each piece of jewelry with paper, velvet or silk.
2. Try not to throw, the original box of the jewellery because jewellery is always very safe in it as the box is specially made for particular jewellery.
3. Try to keep the jewellery back in the box recently after use . It definately increases the life of and shine of your stuff.
4. Avoid wearing your precious jewellery while you are swimming as the chlorine in the water will discolor your jewellery especially silver. Also while gardening, washing dishes, laundry we should avoid jewellery etc.
5. After every six or seven months jewellery should be cleaned with mild soapy water and soft used brush. Before cleaning jewelry make sure the stones are not loose as while cleaning you don't want them coming out.
6. Ultrasonic cleaners are not recommended as the vibrations they make can enlarge inclusions and make them more noticeable.
7. To help prevent damage to your jewelry, don't put them on until you have your makeup, hairspray, perfume or anything else on. The stuff that is in these products could harm your jewelry. Put bracelets on your opposite hand if your right or left handed. Less wear may occur because it's not the main hand used.
8. Don't trust anyone new for the cleaning of your jewellery always do it from any well known shop or person. If shipping your jewelry to be cleaned or repaired use a shipper that has tracking and get it insured.
9. Always take the picture of your jewellery before giving it for any cleaning, as you can claim the concerned person in case of damage or chipping.
10. Pricing for cleaning will vary by type of jewelry and the place you take it too. If you recently bought jewelry from a store they might clean and inspect it for free on an annual basis or something like that. So, always check for this option.
A certain man planted a rose and watered it faithfully and before it blossomed, he examined it. He saw the bud that would soon blossom, but noticed thorns upon the stem and he thought, "How can any beautiful flower come from a plant burdened with so many sharp thorns? Saddened by this thought, he neglected to water the rose, and just before it was ready to bloom... it died.
So it is with many people. Within every soul there is a rose. The God-like qualities planted in us at birth, grow amid the thorns of our faults. Many of us look at ourselves and see only the thorns, the defects.We despair, thinking that nothing good can possibly come from us. We neglect to water the good within us, and eventually it dies. We never realize our potential.
Some people do not see the rose within themselves; someone else must show it to them. One of the greatest gifts a person can possess is to be able to reach past the thorns of another, and find the rose within them. This is one of the characteristic of love... to look at a person, know their true faults and accepting that person into your life... all the while recognizing the nobility in their soul. Help others to realize they can overcome their faults. If we show them the "rose" within themselves, they will conquer their thorns. Only then will they blossom many times over.
Have You Ever Felt Like You Knew Someone a Long Time Ago?
Posted by Bobby Hamasaki at 18:47 Labels: FriendshipAnother place, another time, a friendship of the souls?
Two people who share a bond for reasons neither know,
A feeling that they were friends, a long, long time ago?
Did they stumble onto each other by pure circumstance,
Or was it fate and destiny that played a certain hand?
Two souls intertwined, they are worlds apart,
But the soul, it knows no difference, in matters of the heart.
Somehow they are drawn together, fate has brought them back,
Each living worlds apart, they journey separate paths.
When this life is over, and a new life begins,
Their souls will find each other, two souls that we call friends.
Author : Lia Fail
Professor began his class by holding up a glass with some water in it.
He held it up for all to see & asked the students," How much do you think
this glass weighs?"
"50gms!" .... "100gms!" ....."125gms" .....the students answered.
"I really don"t know unless I weigh it," said the professor, "but, my
question is: What would happen if I held it up like this for a few
minutes?"
"Nothing" the students said.
"Ok what would happen if I held it up like this for an hour?" the professor
asked.
"Your arm would begin to ache" said one of the students.
"You"re right, now what would happen if I held it for a day?"
"Your arm could go numb, you might have severe muscle stress & paralysis &
have to go to hospital for sure!" ventured another student & all the
students laughed.
"Very good. But during all this, did the weight of the glass change?" asked
the professor.
"No"
"Then what caused the arm ache & the muscle stress?" The students were
puzzled.
"Put the glass down!" said one of the students.
"Exactly!" said the professor." Life"s problems are something like this.
Hold it for a few minutes in your head & they seem OK. Think of them for a
long time & they begin to ache. Hold it even longer & they begin to
paralyze you. You will not be able to do anything. It"s important to think
of the challenges (problems) in your life, but EVEN MORE IMPORTANT to "put
them down" at the end of every day before you go to sleep. That way, you
are not stressed, you wake up every day fresh & strong & can handle any issue,
any challenge that comes your way!"
Difference Between "Someone You Love" and "Someone You Like"
Posted by Bobby Hamasaki at 11:39 Labels: Love + DatingBut in front of the person you like, you get happy.
In front of a person you love, winter seems like a spring.
But in front of a person you like, winter is just a beautiful winter.
If you look into the eyes of the one you love, you blush.
But if u look into the eyes of the one u like,u smile.
In front of a person you love, you can't say anything on your mind.
But in front of a person you like, you can.
In front of the one you love, you tend to get shy.
But in front of the one you like, you can show your own self.
YoU can't look straight into the eyes of the one you love.
But you can always smile into the eyes of the one you like.
When the one you love is crying, you cry with him.
But when the one you like is crying, you end up comforting him.
The feeling of love starts from the eye.
But the feeling of liking starts from the ear.
So if you stop liking a person you used to like,
all you need to do is close your ears.
But if you try to close your eyes,
love turns into a drop of tear & remains in ur heart forever.
The word "sex" may have more explosive connotations and baffling confusion attached to it than any other word in the English language. And the idea of "sex appeal" is just like it. It's got power all right. That may be why you're reading this article. We all want to have sex appeal. We might not agree on exactly what the term means, but if someone accused us of having it, we wouldn't argue with them.
If you have sex appeal, it means there's something about you that makes persons of the opposite sex hunger to be as close to you as possible. They want to have their arm interlocked with yours, feel your skin by touching your hand, and, obviously, in time, they want to kiss you and do all the physical things we are all perfectly aware of. There is something so attractive about you that they want to bond with you, literally become one with you.
But this is where we have to think very carefully. Clearly, we like the idea of persons of the opposite sex finding us so appealing that they want to become one with us. What a compliment! But what part of you do they want to become one with—just your body, or your body, mind, and soul? We get nervous and defensive when someone finds just our body appealing—and they don't know the first thing about our mind and soul.
And we should! In the larger scheme of things, our bodies are but a small part of the totality of us. Our minds are thousands of times more complex and unique, and what we call our souls are the deepest parts of us, the parts that are so central to our being that their value to us is beyond words, beyond measurement. Most of us are just beginning to understand our souls a little bit. We have flashes of awareness of how unique our souls are, how they contain all the really precious parts about us, and we literally shudder at the idea of playing fast and loose with this unbelievably masterful part of our identity. We're the only person in the history of the world with the soul we have, and if we gained the whole world, but lost our soul, we would have lost everything.
So, when we talk about sex appeal, we're talking about being someone whose whole package appeals to the kind of person who will relate to the entirety of us. While the place to start may be with our physical appearance, it's only about 10% of the total process. There's not a thing in the world wrong with watching your weight, toning your body, choosing the right haircut, wearing stylish clothes, and following every last rule of physical hygiene. You will make yourself far more appealing physically, and you will already be 10% of the way to a sex appeal that will draw the kind of person you are dreaming of.
And then the fun begins! The next 30% of sex appeal is about getting your mind in shape. The health of your mind has little to do with your intelligence rating. You may have an I.Q. of 90 or a 100 or a 130. At any intelligence level, the critical question is how healthy is your mind? Just as the health of your body is a consequence of what you feed it, how often you exercise it, the amount of rest you grant it, and how you protect it against disease, the same is true of your mind. If you want to have a really healthy mind, feed it good stuff--stimulating reading material, uplifting and inspirational music, challenging conversation about major topics, and time to reflect. And exercise it. Take on some fascinating new reading material about subjects that at first glance seem too much for you. Join some new groups that tax you to your edges. Keep trying new things. As your mind grows bigger and stronger, your sex appeal will literally multiply.
And then, the real secret of sex appeal! You may think it’s an exaggeration, but 60% of lasting sex appeal is all about your soul. There are just three things to do to get your soul healthy. First, get to know it. Go down inside yourself, clear to the center of you, and become a close friend of your soul. This usually requires time alone, time for reflection, meditation and/or prayer. Second, get yourself powerfully loved at the deepest of levels—loved in a durable way, loved unconditionally. And finally, get about the task of becoming unswervingly authentic. Let your soul be at the center of your life, rather than trapped in a dark basement of your being.
We bet you're wondering how this article turned from sex appeal into a discussion of body, mind and soul. Well, because most people fall for the old idea that sex appeal is all about your body. Some of them get (or are already are) physically attractive but go on to neglect their minds and souls. They snag a lot of fish from the sea. And usually, these relationships deteriorate as soon as they got beyond the first 10% layer. On the other hand, wiser people build their sex appeal around the beauty of their bodies, the magnificence of their minds, and the delicacy and vibrancy of their souls—and those relationships are the ones that flourish increasingly over time.
- If you messed up your life, you could press "Alt, Ctrl, Delete" and start all over!
- To get your daily exercise, just click on "run"!
- If you needed a break from life, click on "suspend". Hit "any key" to continue life when ready.
- To get even with the neighbors, turn up the sound blaster.
- To "add/remove" someone in your life, click settings and control panel.
- To improve your appearance, just adjust the display settings.
- If life gets too noisy, turn off the speakers.
- When you lose your car keys, click on "find".
- "Help" with the chores is just a click away.
- You wouldn't need auto insurance. You'd use your diskette to recover from a crash.
- We could click on "send" and the kids would go to bed immediately.
- To feel like a new person, click on "refresh".
- Click on "close" to shut up the kids and spouse.
- To undo a mistake, click on "back".
- Is your wardrobe getting old? Click "update".
- If you don't like cleaning the litter box, click on "delete".
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REASONS
1. The nice men are ugly.
2. The handsome men are not nice.
3. The handsome and nice men are gay.
4. The handsome, nice and heterosexual men are married.
5. The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men, have no money.
6. The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men with money think we are only after their money.
7. The handsome men without money are after our money.
8. The handsome men, who are not so nice and somewhat heterosexual, don't think we are beautiful enough.
9. The men who think we are beautiful, that are heterosexual, somewhat nice and have money, are cowards.
10. The men who are somewhat handsome, somewhat nice and have some money and thank God are heterosexual, are shy and NEVER MAKE THE FIRST MOVE!!!!
11. The men who never make the first move, automatically lose interest in us when we take the initiative.
NOW, WHO THE HELL UNDERSTANDS MEN?
The story has been told and retold countless times about the battle of Waterloo. Poems have been written and songs have been composed detailing every conceivable aspect about it. The English tell it one way and the French share it from a slightly different point of view.
History and legend has it that after Napoleon Bonaparte's army was defeated and the Duke of Wellington prevailed over the French, Napoleon was taken away and imprisoned. One day a group of newspaper reporters came to visit. They had obtained permission to hold an interview with the famous French general Napoleon Bonaparte.
Even though Napoleon was in prison, he carried himself with dignity and looked with piercing eyes at the group of reporters gathered there before him. Questions were asked and answers given. The reporters wrote every word down. This would, indeed, be good reading. They would boast to their children and grandchildren how they stood before the great general on that long ago day.
Suddenly, from the back of the room, a voice, somewhat more gentle than the others was heard above the din. "Mon general," the reporter said, "Tell me why the English won at Waterloo. Did they have a superior army?"
"No!" replied Napoleon.
"Well, did they have better weapons?" asked another reporter.
"No!" was the answer again.
Then the first reporter asked again, "Why then, Mr. General, did the English win?"
Napoleon's eyes slowly swept across the room. The silence was so deep that it was almost deafening. You could have heard the proverbial pin drop. Then he replied, "The English fought five minutes longer."
From the mouth of the great general himself came the answer, "The English fought five minutes longer". Many times, five minutes longer is all that it takes. Times have changed from the days of the Emperor Napoleon. But many things still remain the same.
Sometimes victory is just a few minutes away. Yes, I know, we all go through terrible times. In today's world many of us are faced with crisis after crisis. For most, there is never enough money, no jobs, poor relationships, ill health and the list could go on and on. Of course, there are good times, too, but the hard times usually block our vision of the good times.
When things get really bad, we turn this way and that looking for some help or at least some hope to keep on keeping on. Anything will do--a kind word from a friend, a paragraph from a good book, a stray piece of music from the radio, even a Hollywood movie.
Some people will be there for you, others will turn and run from you, fearing for their own well-being. Still others may throw you a crumb of money, or food and hope you won't ask for more. Be grateful. They do as they see fit to do at the moment. Your job is to just keep on keeping on.
When you are down in the arena and the dust is in your mouth and you can hear the screaming of the crowd, remember, "The English fought five minutes longer." Sometimes it's so bad that one day at a time is too long. So go one hour at a time. And if that's too long, then how about five minutes at a time?
Success is sometimes just yards or minutes away. There are times when the last few yards may seem like miles and the last few minutes may appear to be hours. But if you keep on keeping on, if you do not let hope die, if you have faith in the goodness of the universe and the Force that created us, you will win in the end.
Why did Napoleon lose to the English at the battle of Waterloo? The English simply fought five minutes longer.
If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight;
If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy;
If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilty;
If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient;
If a child lives with encouragement, he learns confidence;
If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate;
If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice;
If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith;
If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself;
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns to find love in the world.
Author : Dorothy Law Holte
Increase Your Financial IQ: Get Smarter with Your Money
Posted by Bobby Hamasaki at 08:40 Labels: Inspiring Book
Rich Dad's Increase Your Financial IQ: Get Smarter with Your MoneyBy Robert T. Kiyosaki
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For years, Robert Kiyosaki has firmly believed that the best investment one can ever make is in taking the time to truly understand how one's finances work. Too many people are much more interested in the quick-hitting scheme, or trying to find a short-cut to real wealth. As Kiyosaki has preached over and over again, one has to truly under the process of how money works before one can start out on trying to escape the daily financial Rat Race.
Now, in this latest book in the popular Rich Dad Poor Dad series, Kiyosaki lays out his 5 key principles of Financial Intelligence for all to understand. In INCREASE YOUR FINANCIAL IQ, Kiyosaki provides real insights on these key steps to wealth:
1. How to increase your money
how to assess what you're really worth now, what your prospects are, and how to start mapping out your financial future.
2. How to protect your money
for better or for worse, taxes are a way of life. Kiyosaki shows you that "it's not what you make....it's what you keep."
3. How to budget your money
everybody wants to live large, but you have to learn how to live within your budget. Kiyosaki shows you how you can.
4. How to leverage your money
as you build your financial IQ, knowing how to put your money to work for you is a crucial step.
5. How to improve your financial information
Kiyosaki shows you how to accelerate your wealth as you learn more and more.
Product Description
* Amazon Sales Rank: #4506 in Books
* Published on: 2008-03-26
* Original language: English
* Number of items: 1
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* 240 pages
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I wanted to thank you
for the things you have done,
for being my guardian angel
when I felt I had none.
I wanted to thank you
for the love you have shown,
for your warmth and affection
when I thought I was alone.
I wanted to thank you
for your gestures and words;
you gave me strength when I was in need
and helped me trust in my own creed.
I wanted to thank you
for being there through thick and thin,
if not in body, in soul
and always believing that I could win.
I wanted to thank you
for who you are,
for your strength and courage,
for always shining like the brightest star.
And the only way I can thank you
and show you how I feel
is to utter these words
which are written in steel:
It's so peaceful to be loved for who I have become
than to be resented for the things I have not done.
ABN AMRO - In the 1960s, the Nederlandse Handelmaatschappij (Dutch Trading Society; 1824) and the Twentsche Bank merged to form the Algemene Bank Nederland ( ABN; General Bank of the Netherlands ). In 1966, the Amsterdamsche Bank and the Rotterdamsche Bank merged to form the Amro Bank. In 1991, ABN and Amro Bank merged to form ABN AMRO.
Accenture - Accent on the Future. Greater-than 'accent' over the logo's t points forward towards the future. The name Accenture was proposed by a company employee in Norwayas part of a internal name finding process (BrandStorming) . Prior to January 1, 2001 the company was called Andersen Consulting.
Adidas - from the name of the founder Adolf (Adi) Dassler.
AltaVista - Spanish for "high view".
Adobe - came from name of the river Adobe Creek that ran behind the house of founder John Warnock.
Apache - It got its name because its founders got started by applying patches to code written for NCSA's httpd daemon. The result was 'A PAtCHy' server -- thus, the name Apache
Apple - for the favourite fruit of co-founder Steve Jobs and/or for the time he worked at an apple orchard. He was three months late in filing a name for the business, and he threatened to call his company Apple Computer if his colleagues didn't suggest a better name by 5 p.m. Apple's Macintosh is named after a popular variety of apple sold in the US . Apple also wanted to distance itself from the cold, unapproachable, complicated imagery created by the other computer companies at the time had names like IBM, NEC, DEC, ADPAC, Cincom, Dylakor, Input, Integral Systems, SAP, PSDI, Syncsort and Tesseract. The new company sought to reverse the entrenched view of computers in order to get people to use them at home. They looked for a name that was unlike the names of traditional computer companies, a name that also supported a brand positioning strategy that was to be perceived as simple, warm, human, approachable and different.
Note: Apple had to get approval from the Beatle's Apple Corps to use the name 'Apple' and paid a one-time royalty of $100,000 to McIntosh Laboratory, Inc., a maker of high-end audio equipment, to use the derivative name 'Macintosh', known now as just 'Mac'.
BBC - Stands for British Broadcasting Corporation.
BenQ - Bringing ENjoyment and Quality to life
Blaupunkt- Blaupunkt (Blue dot) was founded in 1923 under the name Ideal. Their core business was the manufacturing of headphones. If the headphones came through quality tests, the company would give the headphones a blue dot. The headphones quickly became known as the blue dots or blaue Punkte. The quality symbol would become a trademark, and the trademark would become the company name in 1938.
BMW - abbreviation of Bayerische Motoren Werke (Bavarian Motor Factories)
Borealis - The Northern Lights or Aurora Borealis, is the celestial phenomenon that features bursts of light in colourful patterns dancing across the night skies of the north. Borealis, inspired from the shining brilliance of the Northern Lights, was formed in 1994 out of the merger between two northern oil companies, Norway 's Statoil and Finland 's Neste.
BP - formerly British Petroleum, now "BP" (The slogan "Beyond Petroleum" has incorrectly been taken to refer to the company's new name following its rebranding effort in 2000).
BRAC - abbreviation for Bangladesh Rural Advancement Committee, world's largest NGO (non governmental organization) . It works in development programs around the world.
Bridgestone - named after founder Shojiro Ishibashi. The surname Ishibashi (??) means "stone bridge", i.e. "bridge of stone".
Bull - Compagnie des machines Bull was founded in Paristo exploit the patents for punched card machines taken out by a Norwegian engineer, Fredrik Rosing Bull.
Cadillac - Cadillac was named after the 18th century French explorer Antoine Laumet de La Mothe , sieur de Cadillac, founder of Detroit , Michigan . Cadillac is a small town in the South of France.
Canon - Originally (1933) Precision Optical Instruments Laboratory the new name (1935) derived from the name of the company's first camera, the Kwannon, in turn named after the Japanese name of the Buddhist bodhisattva of mercy.
CISCO - its not an acronym but the short for San Francisco.
Coca-Cola - Coca-Cola's name is derived from the coca leaves and kola nuts used as flavoring. Coca-Cola creator John S. Pemberton changed the 'K' of kola to 'C' for the name to look better.
Colgate-Palmolive - formed from a merger of soap manufacturers Colgate & Company and Palmolive-Peet. Peet was dropped in 1953. Colgate was named after William Colgate, an English immigrant, who set up a starch, soap and candle business in New York Cityin 1806. Palmolive was named for the two oils (Palm and Olive) used in its manufacture.
Compaq- from "comp" for computer, and "pack" to denote a small integral object; or: Compatibility And Quality; or: from the company's first product, the very compact Compaq Portable.
Comsat - an American digital telecommunications and satellite company, founded during the President Kennedy era to develop the technology. Contraction of Communications Satellites.
Daewoo- the company founder Kim Woo Chong called it Daewoo which means "Great Universe" in Korean.
Dell- named after its founder, Michael Dell. The company changed its name from Dell Computer in 2003.
DHL- the company was founded by Adrian Dalsey, Larry Hillblom , and Robert Lynn , whose last initials form the company's moniker.
eBay- Pierre Omidyar, who had created the Auction Web trading website, had formed a web consulting concern called Echo Bay Technology Group. " EchoBay" didn't refer to the town in Nevada , the nature area close to Lake Mead , or any real place. "It just sounded cool," Omidyar reportedly said. When he tried to register EchoBay.com, though, he found that Echo Bay Mines, a gold mining company, had gotten it first. So, Omidyar registered what (at the time) he thought was the second best name: eBay.com.
Epson - Epson Seiko Corporation, the Japanese printer and peripheral manufacturer, was named from "Son of Electronic Printer"
Fanta- was originally invented by Max Keith in Germanyin 1940 when World War II made it difficult to get the Coca-Cola syrup to Nazi Germany. Fanta was originally made from byproducts of cheese and jam production. The name comes from the German word for imagination (Fantasie or Phantasie), because the inventors thought that imagination was needed to taste oranges from the strange mix.
Fazer - named after its founder, Karl Fazer.
Fiat- acronym of Fabbrica Italiana Automobili Torino (Italian Factory of Cars of Turin).
Fuji- from the highest Japanese mountain Mount Fuji .
Google - the name started as a jokey boast about the amount of information the search-engine would be able to search. It was originally named 'Googol', a word for the number represented by 1 followed by 100 zeros. After founders, Stanford grad students Sergey Brin and Larry Page presented their project to an angel investor, they received a cheque made out to 'Google'
Hotmail - Founder Jack Smith got the idea of accessing e-mail via the web from a computer anywhere in the world. When Sabeer Bhatia came up with the business plan for the mail service, he tried all kinds of names ending in 'mail' and finally settled for hotmail as it included the letters "html" - the
programming language used to write web pages. It was initially referred to as HoTMaiL with selective upper casing.
HP - Bill Hewlett and Dave Packard tossed a coin to decide whether the company they founded would be called Hewlett-Packard or Packard-Hewlett.
Intel - Bob Noyce and Gordon Moore wanted to name their new company 'Moore Noyce' but that was already trademarked by a hotel chain, so they had to settle for an acronym of INTegrated ELectronics.
Lotus (Notes) - Mitch Kapor got the name for his company from 'The Lotus Position' or 'Padmasana'. Kapor used to be a teacher of Transcendental Meditation (by Maharishi Mahesh Yogi).
Microsoft - coined by Bill Gates to represent the company that was devoted to MICROcomputer SOFTware. Originally christened Micro-Soft, the '-' was removed later on.
Motorola - Founder Paul Galvin came up with this name when his company started manufacturing radios for cars. The popular radio company at the time was called Victrola.
ORACLE - Larry Ellison and Bob Oats were working on a consulting project for the CIA (Central Intelligence Agency). The code name for the project was called Oracle (acronym for: One Real a*****e Called Larry Ellison)
Red Hat - Company founder Marc Ewing was given the Cornell lacrosse team cap (with red and white stripes) while at college by his grandfather. He lost it and had to search for it desperately. The manual of the beta version of Red Hat Linux had an appeal to readers to return his Red Hat if found by anyone !
SAP - "Systems, Applications, Products in Data Processing", formed by 4 ex-IBM employees who used to work in the 'Systems/Application s/Projects"
SUN - founded by 4 Stanford University buddies, SUN is the acronym for Stanford University Network.
Xerox - The inventor, Chestor Carlson, named his product trying to say 'dry' (as it was dry copying, markedly different from the then prevailing wet copying). The Greek root 'xer' means dry.
Yahoo! - the word was invented by Jonathan Swift and used in his book 'Gulliver's Travels'. It represents a person who is repulsive in appearance and action and is barely human. Yahoo! founders Jerry Yang and David Filo selected the name because they considered themselves yahoos.
Corporate lesson 1
A man is getting into the shower just as his wife is finishing up her shower when the doorbell rings. After a few seconds of arguing over which one should go and answer the doorbell, the wife gives up, quickly wraps herself up in a towel and runs downstairs. When she opens the door, there stands Bob, the next door neighbour.
Before she says a word, Bob says,"I'll give you $800 to drop that towel that you have on."
After thinking for a moment, the woman drops her towel and stands naked in front of Bob. After a few seconds, Bob hands her $800 and leaves. Confused, but excited about her good fortune, the woman wraps back up in the towel and goes back upstairs. When she gets back to the bathroom, her husband asks from the shower, "Who was that?" "It was Bob the next door neighbour," she replies. "Great," the husband says, "did he say anything about the $800 he owes me?"
Moral of the story :
If you share critical information pertaining to credit and risk in time with your stakeholders, you may be in a position to prevent avoidable exposure.
Corporate lesson 2
A priest was driving along and saw a nun on the side of the road, he stopped and offered her a lift which,she accepted. She got in and crossed her legs,forcing her gown to open and reveal a lovely leg. The priest had a look and nearly had an accident. After controlling the car, he stealthily slid his hand up her leg. The nun looked at him and immediately said, "Father,remember psalm 129?" The priest was flustered and apologised profusely. He forced himself to remove his hand. However, he was unable to remove his eyes from her leg. Further on while changing gear, he let his hand slide up her leg again. The nun once again said, "Father, remember psalm 129?" Once again the priest apologised. "Sorry sister but the flesh is weak."
Arriving at the convent, the nun got out gave him a meaningful glance and went on her way. On his arrival at the church, the priest rushed to retrieve a bible and looked up psalm 129. It Said, "Go forth and seek, further up, you will find glory."
Moral of the story :
Always be well informed in your job, or you might miss a great opportunity.
Corporate Lesson 3
A sales rep, an administration clerk and the manager are walking to lunch when they find an antique oil lamp. They rub it and a Genie comes out in a puff of smoke. The Genie says, "I usually only grant three wishes, so I'll give each of you just one." "Me first! Me first!" says the admin clerk "I want to be in the Bahamas, driving a speedboat, without a care in the world." Poof! She's gone. In astonishment, "Me next! Me next!" says the sales rep. "I want to be in Hawaii, relaxing on the beach with my personal masseuse, an Endless supply of pina-coladas and the love of my life." Poof! He's gone. "OK, you're up," the Genie says to the manager. The manager says, "I want those two back in the office after lunch."
Moral of the story :
Always let your boss have the first say.
Corporate Lesson 4
A crow was sitting on a tree, doing nothing all day. A small rabbit saw the crow, and asked him, "Can I also sit like you and do nothing all day long?" The crow answered: "Sure, why not." So, the rabbit sat on the ground below the crow, and rested. All of a sudden a fox appeared, jumped on the rabbit and ate it.
Moral of the story :
To be sitting and doing nothing, you must be sitting very, very high up.
Corporate Lesson 5
A turkey was chatting with a bull. "I would love to be able to get to the top of that tree," sighed the turkey, but I haven't got the energy." "Well, why don't you nibble on some of my droppings?" replied the bull. "They're packed with nutrients." The turkey pecked at a lump of dung and found that it actually gave him enough strength to reach the lowest branch of the tree. The next day, after eating some more dung, he reached the second branch. Finally after a fourth night,there he was proudly perched at the top of the tree. Soon he was promptly spotted by a farmer, who shot the turkey out of the tree.
Moral of the story :
Bullshit might get you to the top, but it won't keep you there.
Corporate Lesson 6
A little bird was flying south for the winter. It was so cold the bird froze and fell to the ground in a large field. While it was lying there, a cow came by and dropped some dung on it. As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung, it began to realise how warm it was. The dung was actually thawing him out! He lay there all warm and happy, and soon began to sing for joy. A passing cat heard the bird singing and came to investigate. Following the sound, the cat discovered the bird under the pile of cow dung, and promptly dug him out and ate him
Moral of the story :
1) Not everyone who shits on you is your enemy
2) Not everyone who gets you out of shit is your friend.
3) And when you're in deep shit, it's best to keep your mouth shut!
A man can go two weeks without eating. But if he doesn't rest at all, he can only survive for one week. Sleeping provides us the time to rest our internal organs, eyes and brains. Poor sleep quality can cause internal damage to our internal organs and brains. Therefore, sleeping is very important to us. If you wish to have a long life and stay healthy, please take note of the advice below.
5 DON'TS when you are sleeping
1) DON'T SLEEP WITH WATCH
Watches can emit a certain level of radioactivity. Though small, but if you wear your watch to bed for a long time, it might have adverse effects on your health.
2) DON'T SLEEP WITH BRA
Scientists in America have discovered those that wear bras for more than 12 hours have a higher risk of getting breast cancer. So go to bed without it.
3) DON'T SLEEP WITH PHONE
Putting the phone beside your bed or anywhere near you is not encouraged. Though some of us will use phones as alarm clocks, but please put the phone as far as possible. Scientists have proved that electrical items including mobile phone and television sets emit magnetic
waves when used. These waves can cause disruptions to our nervous system. Therefore if you need to put your mobile phone near you, switch it off first.
4) DON'T SLEEP WITH MAKE-UP
People who sleep with make up might have skin problems in the long run. Sleeping with make up will cause the skin to have difficulty in breathing and problem in perspiring. You will also need a much longer time to go into deep sleep.
5) DON'T SLEEP WITH OTHERS WIFE
You may never wake up again.
One day, when I was a freshman in high school, I saw a kid from my class was walking home from school. His name was Kyle. It looked like he was carrying all of his books. I thought to myself, "Why would anyone bring home all his books on a Friday? He must really be a nerd."
I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my friends tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went on. As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward him. They ran at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he landed in the dirt. His glasses went flying, and I saw them land in the grass about ten feet from him. He looked up and I saw this terrible sadness in his eyes.
My heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him and as he crawled around looking for his glasses, and I saw a tear in his eye. As I handed him his glasses, I said, "Those guys are jerks. They really should get lives." He looked at me and said, "Hey thanks!" There was a big smile on his face. It was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude.
I helped him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived. As it turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen him before. He said he had gone to private school before now. I would have never hung out with a private school kid before. We talked all the way home, and I carried some of his books. He turned out to be a pretty cool kid. I asked him if he wanted to play a little football with my friends. He said yes. We hung out all weekend and the more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him, and my friends thought the same of him.
Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with the huge stack of books again. I stopped him and said, "Boy, you are gonna really build some serious muscles with this pile of books everyday!" He just laughed and handed me half the books. Over the next four years, Kyle and I became best friends. When we were seniors, we began to think about college. Kyle decided on Georgetown, and I was going to Duke. I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles would never be a problem. He was going to be a doctor, and I was going for business
on a football scholarship.
Kyle was valedictorian of our class. I teased him all the time about being a nerd. He had to prepare a speech for graduation. I was so glad it wasn't me having to get up there and speak. Graduation day, I saw Kyle. He looked great. He was one of those guys that really found himself during high school. He filled out and actually looked good in glasses. He had more dates than I had and all the girls loved him. Boy, sometimes I was jealous.
Today was one of those days. I could see that he was nervous about his speech. So, I smacked him on the back and said, "Hey, big guy, you'll be great!" He looked at me with one of those looks (the really grateful one) and smiled. "Thanks," he said. As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began. "Graduation is a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough years. Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach... but mostly your friends. I am here to tell all of you that being a friend to someone is the best gift you can give them. I am going to tell you a story."
I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the story of the first day we met. He had planned to kill himself over the weekend. He talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn't have to do it later and was carrying his stuff home. He looked hard at me and gave me a little smile. "Thankfully, I was saved. My friend saved me from doing the unspeakable."
I heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy told us all about his weakest moment. I saw his Mom and dad looking at me and smiling that same grateful smile. Not until that moment did I realize it's depth.
Never underestimate the power of your actions. With one small gesture you can change a person's life. For better or for worse.
God puts us all in each other's lives to impact one another in some way. Look for God in others.
There is no beginning or end..
Yesterday is history.
Tomorrow is mystery.
Today is a gift.
Today, when I awoke, I suddenly realized that this is the best day of my life, ever!
There were times when I wondered if I would make it to today; but I did! And because I did I'm going to celebrate!
Today, I'm going to celebrate what an unbelievable life I have had so far: the accomplishments, the many blessings, and, yes, even the hardships because they have served to make me stronger.
I will go through this day with my head held high, and a happy heart.
I will marvel at God's seemingly simple gifts: the morning dew, the sun, the clouds, the trees, the flowers, the birds. Today, none of these miraculous creations will escape my notice.
Today, I will share my excitement for life with other people. I'll make someone smile. I'll go out of my way to perform an unexpected act of kindness for someone I don't even know.
Today, I'll give a sincere compliment to someone who seems down. I'll tell a child how special he is, and I'll tell someone I love just how deeply I care for them and how much they mean to me.
Today is the day I quit worrying about what I don't have and start being grateful for all the wonderful things God has already given me.
I'll remember that to worry is just a waste of time because my faith in God and his Divine Plan ensures everything will be just fine.
Tonight, before I go to bed, I'll go outside and raise my eyes to the heavens. I will stand in awe at the beauty of the stars and the moon, and I will praise God for these magnificent treasures.
As the day ends and I lay my head down on my pillow, I will thank the Almighty for the best day of my life. And I will sleep the sleep of a contented child, excited with expectation because I know tomorrow is going to be...
The best day in my life!!!
by Joel Osteen
source : Lakewood Church Weekly Video Podcast
download available : #406 - Speaking Faith Filled Words (164.41 MB)
Our words have creative power. With our words we can either bless our future or we can curse our future. If we are going to see God's best unfold in our lives, we have to stay on the offensive and speak words of victory. You see, it's not enough to just think it and believe it. You have to give life to your faith by speaking it out. When we speak God's Word, the moment His promises come out of our mouths, something happens in the unseen world. You may not see it for a week, a year, or even ten years, but that does not mean it's not going to happen. Too often we cancel out our promises by speaking negative words. We should be determined that we are going to watch over what comes out of our mouths. No matter how long it's taking, or how it looks, we should keep declaring favor and faith over our situations. If you'll get in the habit of declaring favor and speaking faith-filled words, you're going to see negative situations turn around. Your mountains are going to turn into molehills. Hold fast the profession of your faith. Be amazed as God shows up in big ways in your life.
Back in the fifteenth century, in a tiny village near Nuremberg, lived a family with eighteen children. Eighteen!
In order merely to keep food on the table for this big family, the father and head of the household, a goldsmith by profession, worked almost eighteen hours a day at his trade and any other paying chore he could find in the neighbourhood.
Despite their seemingly hopeless condition, two of Albrecht Durer the Elder's children had a dream. They both wanted to pursue their talent for art, but they knew full well that their father would never be financially able to send either of them to Nuremberg to study at the Academy.
After many long discussions at night in their crowded bed, the two boys finally worked out a pact. They would toss a coin. The loser would go down into the nearby mines and, with his earnings, support his brother while he attended the academy. Then, when that brother who won the toss completed his studies, in four years, he would support the other brother at the academy, either with sales of his artwork or, if necessary, also by labouring in the mines.
They tossed a coin on a Sunday morning after church. Albrecht Durer won the toss and went off to Nuremberg.
Albert went down into the dangerous mines and, for the next four years, financed his brother, whose work at the academy was almost an immediate sensation. Albrecht's etchings, his woodcuts, and his oils were far better than those of most of his professors, and by the time he graduated, he was beginning to earn considerable fees for his commissioned works.
When the young artist returned to his village, the Durer family held a festive dinner on their lawn to celebrate Albrecht's triumphant homecoming. After a long and memorable meal, punctuated with music and laughter, Albrecht rose from his honoured position at the head of the table to drink a toast to his beloved brother for the years of sacrifice that had enabled Albrecht to fulfil his ambition. His closing words were, "And now, Albert, blessed brother of mine, now it is your turn. Now you can go to Nuremberg to pursue your dream, and I will take care of you."
All heads turned in eager expectation to the far end of the table where Albert sat, tears streaming down his pale face, shaking his lowered head from side to side while he sobbed and repeated, over and over, "No ...no ...no ...no."
Finally, Albert rose and wiped the tears from his cheeks. He glanced down the long table at the faces he loved, and then, holding his hands close to his right cheek, he said softly, "No, brother. I cannot go to Nuremberg. It is too late for me. Look ... look what four years in the mines have done to my hands! The bones in every finger have been smashed at least once, and lately I have been suffering from arthritis so badly in my right hand that I cannot even hold a glass to return your toast, much less make delicate lines on parchment or canvas with a pen or a brush. No, brother ... for me it is too late."
More than 450 years have passed. By now, Albrecht Durer's hundreds of masterful portraits, pen and silver point sketches, water-colours, charcoals, woodcuts, and copper engravings hang in every great museum in the world, but the odds are great that you, like most people, are familiar with only one of Albrecht Durer's works. More than merely being familiar with it, you very well may have a reproduction hanging in your home or office.
One day, to pay homage to Albert for all that he had sacrificed, Albrecht Durer painstakingly drew his brother's abused hands with palms together and thin fingers stretched skyward. He called his powerful drawing simply "Hands," but the entire world almost immediately opened their hearts to his great masterpiece and renamed his tribute of love "The Praying Hands."
The next time you see a copy of that touching creation, take a second look. Let it be your reminder, if you still need one, that no one - no one - - ever makes it alone!
source : http://www.moytura.com/reflections/prayinghands.htm
I have no respect for justice.
I break hearts and ruin lives.
I am cunning, malicious and gather strength with age.
The more I am quoted, the more I am believed.
I flourish at every level of society.
My victims are helpless.
They cannot protect themselves against me because
I have no name and no face.
To track me down is impossible.
The harder you try, the more elusive I become.
I am nobody's friend.
Once I tarnish a reputation, it is never the same.
I topple governments and wreck marriages.
I ruin careers and cause sleepless nights,
heartaches and indigestion.
I spawn suspicion and generate grief.
I make innocent people cry in their pillows.
Even my name hisses.
I am called GOSSIP.
Office gossip-
Shop gossip-
Party gossip-
Telephone gossip.
I make headlines and headaches.
REMEMBER, when you repeat a story, ask yourself:
is it true?
Is it fair?
Is it necessary??
If not, do not repeat it.
The following three-word phrases can enrich every relationship. These are just three little BUT VERY POWERFUL words !!! Try this really its works.
I'll Be There
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there." Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we're truly present for other people, important things happen to them & us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.
I Miss You
Perhaps more marriages could be saved & strengthened if couples simply & sincerely say to each other "I miss you." This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired & loved. Consider how ecstatic you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of
your workday, just to say "I miss you."
I Respect You / I Trust You
Respect and trust is another way of showing love. Its conveys the feeling that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds & become close friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships.
Maybe You're Right
This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an argument and restoring frayed emotions. The flip side to "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting maybe "I'm wrong". Let's face it. When you have a heated argument with someone, all you do is cement the other person's point of view. They, or you, will not change their stance and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you're right" can open the door to further explore the subject, in which you may then have the opportunity to get your view across in a more rational manner.
Please Forgive Me
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.
I Thank You
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.
Count On Me
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship; it is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating "you can count on me."
Let Me Help
The best of friends see a need and try to fill it. When they spot a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they pitch in and help.
I Understand You
People become closer and enjoy each other more if they feel the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know in so many little ways that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing relationship. This applies to any relationship.
Go For It
We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to conform to your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how weird they seem to you. Everyone has dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams. Tell them to "go for
it."
I Love You
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted.Your spouse, your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words "I love you."
All it takes is a smile to make someone's day,
A nod of the head, a handshake to send them on their way
All it takes is a smile and a little time to say I love you,
Its self sacrifice and looking to the welfare
Of others, putting someone else first
All it takes is a smile;
A simple smile will light up a whole room
It will brighten even your darkest day
It doesn't cost anything
But it's worth more than silver or gold
At the end of someone's way,
It sparkles brighter than any jewel known to mankind
Happiness is the smile on your face;
And the gladdened heart of a new friend
All it takes is a smile to bring intense joy,
At least for a moment or two,
Where sadness and pain have entered in
It's a journey that will take you places
You will want to be,
So why not share what has
So freely been given to you and me?
People may not remember your name,
They may forget your face,
But what will remain is the smile you gave
When they needed it the most
The world loves a cheerful soul;
Death lies not in the grave
But in the broken spirit.
It dries up the bones.
All it takes is a smile.
A cheerful heart is good medicine.
1. Choose to be Enthusiastic
Corporate presidents voted it the most valuable personality trait. It's the biggest single factor in successful selling. Think enthusiastically. Talk enthusiastically. Become enthusiastic by acting enthusiastic. Your thoughts and actions establish your level of enthusiasm.
2. Be Alive to Everything You Do
Walk fast. Put a bounce in your step. A vigorous, hearty handshake indicates you are glad to be alive and happy to be with the other person. A good smile radiates enthusiasm. Put spirit into your speech by varying the tempo, raising and lowering the pitch, changing the tone and modulation. Force yourself to act with enthusiasm, and soon you will feel enthusiastic.
3. Broadcast Good News
No one ever made a friend or accomplished anything worthwhile by transmitting bad news. Good news, on the other hand, promotes good will and spreads enthusiasm. The message, "Hey! I've got good news" gets the attention of everyone. Take sunshine to school or work. Always aim to make the person you talk to feel better than they otherwise would.
4. The Power of Visualization
Imagination powerfully influences successful outcomes. When imagination and willpower compete, the imagination always wins. Force of will never keep you striving for success, but proper visualization will. All peak performers visualize success. Before you try to do anything, close your eyes and visualize yourself doing it well.
5. Positive Self-Talk
What did you say to yourself today? Did you moan and groan about everyone at school or work? Did you complain about your parents to your best friend? What we think is 100% reflected in how we feel. If all we think about is negative thoughts, our actions will be negative. Remember "I'm a 10! I'm Healthy! Wealthy! Happy! I do what I ought to do, when I ought to do it, whether I want to or not! No Debate! I love me!"
6. Love Others
How can we become more loving? By bringing encouragement, optimism, and hope to all that we meet. By helping others feel comfortable in our presence. By spreading joy and goodwill. By being concerned about the wishes and desires of others. By understanding, caring, accepting, and forgiving. By becoming more concerned about helping others achieve their individual desires.
7. Never Miss 1 to 6 Above
I think, I need not tell you the importance of this point! Go, choose your Attitude and choose your own way!
Your Personality based on Blood Type & Zodiac for Pisces
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Pisces & A-type
February 19 - March 20
for Men
Personality: You are a quiet and reserved person. This is the reason why people label you as being feminine all too often. You don't like to be the center of attention at social gatherings but quietly retreat back to make sure that someone else is in the spotlight. People will take advantage of you because you are too shy to say what is on your mind. So be strong to take your stance.
Love Tendency: The romantic side of you hardly fades, even as you get older in your years. You get so caught up in your love interest that you often aren't able to concentrate on other important matters. In other words, you really fall hard for her. Dating would be a lot easier if you find the courage to approach the woman.
Life: You're truly far from being selfish. When there is opportunity lurking around the corner, you rather give the chance to the person next to you than take it for yourself. The most suitable career would be in mass communication or the in the Arts. You're such a flexible character that you'll be able to work at a 9 to 5 job and work independently at the same time.
for Women
Personality: People find it easy to ask you for favors because you hardly deny them. This will just make your life more complicated. There are certain situations when you have to say "no." You come off as an angel but it will be to you disadvantage because people can easily deceive you. Try not to trust everyone you meet.
Love Tendency: Being in love is the ultimate piece of happiness for you. The romanticist that you are, nothing else could replace this precious and beautiful feeling. You are naive and think that all men are trustworthy. There should be more scrutiny when you meet new men. Don't get married too early because there is a possibility that you will step to the altar for the second time.
Life: You don't have to worry about big calamities in life, especially with the financial matters. There'll always be a way to survive these problems. You also possess a talent that shouldn't go to waste. Put it into good use and you will achieve success in that field.
Match
Good Match: O-type and AB-type Cancers, Taurus and Capricorns are people that will bring you a lot of bliss. These three signs are able to guide you in amazing ways. Partners who will not betray are A-type Taurus, O-type Scorpios, and AB-type Pisces.
Bad Match: B-type Sagittarius and Gemini easily break promises and don't even feel guilty about that. They are trouble for you because what you will feel is betrayal.
Pisces & O-type
February 19 - March 20
for Men
Personality: You're a peaceful and emotional person who combines the two to a positive level. Another great attribute is that you are very honest to yourself. You are willing to fix the problems about you to become a better person.
Love Tendency: There's this great aura about you that you don't even have to move and women will approach you first. Your laid back attitude is priceless in the game of dating. You don't even have to make the initial advancement for dates but you will go through many relationships. Many of them of them will be more for fun than any serious affair.
Life: You tend to be more comfortable working in an independent environment, rather than settling for a regular salary occupation. Your creative nature tends to lead to a field where it involves the Arts. The problem that you will run into is that you love to start a project but you need to work on your persistence to be able to finish it, too. You also get bored of things too easily, which you have to be able to control.
for Women
Personality: Sometimes you need to get a dose of reality because you isolate yourself too much from it. But people aren't aware of it because you tend to cover it very well with your leadership role and great sense of responsibility. People favor you a lot and that's why you are the pick for "Ms. Popularity" all the time.
Love Tendency: A romanticist in all aspects, you dream a lot when you find the spare time to do so. Your beauty, inside and outside, gives men great reasons to find you very attractive. You shake men's emotions with your gentle and affectionate personality that they are inclined to draw towards you. Your weakness is that you give in to men's proposals too easily because you feel bad if you don't.
Life: Your compassion for others is to the point that you sacrifice yourself. Thus, you help others but never think about receiving anything back. You need to devise a plan, so that others will not be able to deceive you. There'll be many obstacles as a young adult when you have to regain your composure.
Match
Good Match: A-type and O-type Cancers, Scorpios, and Capricorns will make you feel special all the time. People with confidence, such as A-type and B-type Taurus are also great prospects.
Bad Match: AB-type Gemini and AB-type Sagittarius aren't the types you should think of as partners. They are so selfish that they criticize you when you happen to help a friend in need and tire you out with their complaints.
Pisces & B-type
February 19 - March 20
for Men
Personality: Your motto is "what you is what you get." Honesty prevails over everything else. You pursue the things you like with persistence but you've got to be careful that you don't get sick of them too easily. It's easy for you to socialize with people, so you naturally have many friends and acquaintances. You appreciate the finer things in life and this shows through your clothes. Thus, your spending habits tend to be too extravagant at times.
Love Tendency: Your orderly conduct and bright personality draws a lot of attention. You enjoy being in the company of women and therefore will be involved in quite a few relationships. There's a likelihood that you will no be satisfied with your first marriage, which will lead to a second one.
Life: You were an energetic since your infancy and this doesn't fade in your adulthood either. This lively spirit sets you apart from many usual characters and people will recognize your prominence. You establish your success very early on in your life because you're very passionate about your work. Be careful who you trust because there will be some who are waiting to see you fail so they could benefit from it.
for Women
Personality: Your sense of humor and shining personality automatically puts you in a favorable position at any social gathering. There is this very strong sense of determination in you, which means that you pursue your goals at all times. Your weak point is that you get bored of things too easily. This is due to your artistic abilities, which occupies your mind with various creative thoughts.
Love Tendency: The danger of getting bored easily also affects your relationships because your love starts quickly and fades away that way, too. You tend to devote all your time to your love interest with phone calls and pamper them with letters and presents. But this feeling only lasts until they show interest in you. Just be careful that you don't get a taste of our own medicine. You have a lot of pride and none of your relationships will be stable until your actual marriage.
Life: There's no hint of dishonesty in you, which also leads to many people trusting you. Your impeccable manner brightens anybody's day. This asset would make you a suitable contender as an employee in the service sector.
Match
Good Match: The best fitting guardians for you are AB-type and O-type Cancers, Virgos, and Pisces. They have a way to pamper you in a very delicate way. O-type Taurus will give you unlimited affection and entertain you with humor.
Bad Match: Both of you are fickle in nature and that's where the arguments usually start. But these arguments turn into huge battlegrounds that neither of you are likely to give in. You and A-type Sagittarius will split up end up in the end, while the blame for this breakup shifts to your direction. You will also not benefit from A-type Gemini because nothing you try will ever satisfy them.
Pisces & AB-type
February 19 - March 20
for Men
Personality: You're a very gentle person, which makes you very accessible to others. If your friends are in need for comfort, you're there for them in no time. You carry out other people's favor as if your life depends on that. It makes you happy when you're helping out others. But this is why your own accomplishment is lacking.
Love Tendency: Popularity among the Women doesn't fade for you. You're usually at the top when it comes to competing for a woman because you're a shining star compared to the other signs. But you're in for a few complicated problems because you're a weak-hearted person. Certain situations will be messy, unless you toughen up and express your true feelings in a dissatisfying relationship.
Life: You receive a lot of stress and sometimes you find it difficult to deal with that. Watch out for your health because it may get weak if you don't balance it with your mental strength. Stop helping out others and work toward your own success. You will not accomplish anything if only others are benefiting from what you do.
for Women
Personality: You have a weak heart and therefore are vulnerable to get hurt. This is why you put other people first before your own happiness. You'd make a great social worker due to your compassionate nature. You're not likely to pamper yourself because your romantic view expects someone else to do that for you.
Love Tendency: There exist two types of love for you. If you decide that money is important to you, then you are able to dump your current boyfriend for someone else who has the wealth. The other type of love is to settle for a man whom you enjoy being with and where money doesn't matter. You'll be battling with these two choices for a long time and this dilemma involves you in many relationships.
Life: The goals you set and the visions you have for the future work out differently than you intended but don't be discouraged by it. Realize that focusing on what you do in the present is much as important as concentrating for the future. Great fortune will be in store for you.
Match
Good Match: The ideal signs for you are A-type and AB-type Pisces and Scorpios. In addition to that are AB-type Virgos. All of you are born with a common destiny that you are able to connect on a very deep level. A-type or B-type Taurus and B-type Capricorns aren't people with a lot of words but there's no need for conversation with these dates.
Bad Match: O-type Sagittarius have the tendency to ignore words they don't like to hear. You need a person who's willing to listen to everything. Another sign that will give you heartache is the O-type Gemini. Avoid them and you may have a chance to find bliss with others who are more suitable to your needs.
A Painful Untold Love story... Please Read
Posted by Bobby Hamasaki at 17:52 Labels: Love + Dating, StoryHER POINT OF VIEW - My Best Friend's Wedding
It was his wedding day. As I finished giving touches to my mild makeup, my thoughts flew back to my school days. The first time I met him, he was just another face in the crowd. We met occasionally through common friends. We became good friends, always had fun at the other¹s expense. He never spared a chance to irritate me, which was not very difficult. We always ended up fighting and patching up the next day only to fight again. 2 years flew by but nothing changed. Our friends knew we were very close and teased us incessantly. We would blush but still continue fighting. Everyday I would wait impatiently for him to come. If I didn¹t see him for even a day my heart would not be in whatever I do. I would roam around listlessly. I attributed it to the fact that I did not have my daily quota of fights and patch up. We grew up together, but as we grew up we became more aware of our friends making fun of the usual teenage gossip and us. We slowly reduced our fights and spent less and less time together.
One day he came and told me that he was leaving to another city. I had always taken it for granted that I could see him whenever I wanted to. For the first time I realized how much he meant to me. All our friends were there to say goodbye. I wanted to say so much, but I didn¹t know how to convey my feelings. As the car pulled out, I realized at that moment that he meant more to me than anything else. He was my best friend but I also realized, I had unknowingly, unconsciously fallen in love with him. I wished he were there, in front of me so that I could tell him how I felt. But he was gone. There was not a day, not an hour when I didn¹t think of him. My friends realized something was a miss, as they had never seen me so silent and so lost in thoughts. When they found out the reason, they felt it was just a crush and that it would go away. Some suggested finding out his whereabouts, but I didn¹t want them to. I was happy to be in love. I didn¹t want to think that there were two possibilities, he might love me, but he might not. I was happy that I was in love it was beautiful.
There were times when I would miss the sharing, the companionship, and the sweet nothings that people in love felt and enjoyed. My love was one sided but it was love nevertheless. He was always there in my thoughts and what better companionship can I ask for? Time flew. I went to college and then to work. Through the years I heard bits and pieces of news about him. I heard he was abroad, studying. And then I heard he was in love.
My heart broke. The rational side of me knew that since I had never told him how I felt, I should accept what happened. But my heart cried. As much as I tried I couldn¹t stop thinking about it. I would spend the whole day putting up a smiling face for the people around me, and fall into my bed, tears streaming down my face. I realized I had to face the truth. He was my first love and would always be, but I realized life has much more to offer. I wanted to move on, be happy and maybe meet someone whom I would love and who would love me. Surprisingly fate decided to help me in its own way. I met his mom by chance and she promptly invited me for his wedding. I realized the only way to come to terms would be to actually go for wedding. I knew, once I see him happily married, I could and would get over it. I came back to the present with a start, as my mobile phone rang. It was my friend asking me out for a movie. I told her I was going to a marriage to meet a long lost friend and hung up. I was ready, to face reality.
HIS POINT OF VIEW - My Best Friend in My Wedding
I just came out of the shower. The new suit was lying on the bed. It was a memorable day for me, my wedding day. I was getting ready when my mother entered the room and told me that my friends have come and they are waiting to see me in the hall. I just glanced through the window n I could see all my friends chatting n laughing, people who have been with me through my thick n thin. And then I saw her, an angel, and my best friend. She looked really beautiful, had put on some weight, n carried the cute little smile that I always admired. I slowly started traversing back, memories started pouring in, and I t has been a long eight years since I last saw her.
I first met her in school when we were taking part in a debate competition. She was cute, shy and a bit funny too. We occasionally met through some of our common friends. Slowly, she became a part of my life. We used to have lunch together, gossip around, and make fun of the teachers and those were moments when we felt that nothing existed beyond us in the entire universe. She used to wait for me when I had special classes and pretend that she had missed the school bus. Life was so much of fun. No day ended without fighting and patching up. At times, there was nothing to talk, but still I craved to talk. That's when I used this weapon of fighting. She was quite adamant, never gave up so quickly, n I enjoyed every moment of those precious times when we fought and argued and then patched up. There were times when our friends teased us of a growing affinity, something beyond friendship. I pondered about it at times, but she was very quick to dismiss it every time. I slowly started realizing that we were made for each other.
But, fate had other ideas. My father got a transfer and we had to move to another city in short notice. The day finally arrived, I expected her to say a lot, I was looking into her eyes, trying to read what¹s going on in her mind, realized at that moment, Einstein¹s equations were much easier to understand than what¹s going on in a girl¹s mind. She never uttered a single word, just said good-bye. Tears were flowing down my cheek, I thought she would understand at least at that moment, but rain poured in washing away my tears and with it my chance of being with my angel for life.
She never contacted me after that. I joined college and went abroad for my further studies. I always made sure that she knows what I am doing and where I am through our common friends, hoping against hope that someday she will realize the love for me hidden in the deep cavities of her heart, and she would say those words which I longed to hear for years. But it never happened. She finished her education and later she joined a reputed software company. I slowly
started accepting the fact that I was not the kind of guy she would like to spend her life with. In the meanwhile, I met a girl who fell in love with me. Knowing the pain of an unfulfilled love, I accepted her proposal, and our marriage got fixed. But, I wanted to see my angel at least once in my life. I asked my mother to pass on the invitation to her; somehow I strongly felt that she would surely turn up for my wedding.
There was a thud sound and I came back to reality. She was still sitting there and laughing, maybe to one of the jokes cracked by my friends. I knew at that moment, mine was not a lost love; it will always be there in my heart. If it was there for eight years, it will last forever, till I reach my grave. Just that we had to move ahead in life, in different directions. I got ready and started walking towards my friends. I was ready, to face reality.
If you listen to women talk about men, you'll
often hear them use the word "ANNOYING" to
describe certain men and certain things that some
men DO.
Now, as you can probably guess, it's not
usually a good thing when a woman uses this
particular word to describe a guy...
And, as you can ALSO probably guess, when a
woman uses this particular word, it's not usually
about guys who she is ATTRACTED to (although this
isn't always true).
Now, it's taken me a few years of paying
attention to really get a handle on what women are
talking about when they say, "He's annoying" or
"It's so annoying when he does that".
And guess what I realized was at the ROOT of
women finding a guy or his behavior annoying?
IT'S ALMOST ALWAYS WUSSY BEHAVIOR!
AHHHH!
THINGS THAT ANNOY WOMEN...
Here are some of the things that many women
consider to be "annoying":
- Calling her too often
- Telling her that you have "feelings" for her too
early
- Giving away your power to her and making her the
boss
- Always asking a woman what she wants instead of
leading
- Acting submissive and weak
- Accepting her demands, bossy-ness, and
manipulative requests
- Being her doormat and putting your own needs
aside
"WHAT?" you say.
"HOW COULD THIS BE?"... you might be thinking.
How is it possible that demonstrating your
affection for a woman by calling her, telling her
how you feel, letting her make the decisions, and
putting her first could be considered ANNOYING, of
all things?
Well guess what?
IT IS.
Women, and ESPECIALLY the most ATTRACTIVE and
desirable women, usually consider the above things
to be VERY annoying.
Of course, the reason for this is because no
matter how good these kinds of behaviors seem on
the surface, there's only one conclusion that can
be drawn from them:
THE MAN DOING THEM IS A BONAFIDE, 100%
CERTIFIABLE WUSSY!
AND WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO WUSSIES.
NEVER.
Now, do I really, really, REALLY mean that
women are NEVER, EVER attracted to Wussies?
I mean, isn't that an over- generalization?
Nothing is always true, right?
Well, this one IS.
Actually, what I MEAN is...
As far as generalizations go, this particular
one is as close to being true all the time as they
get.
And just in case I haven't said this enough,
let me say it one more time... just to make sure
it's clear:
WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO WUSSIES.
So now you understand why all of the "nice"
things that you've done for women seem to always
result in the woman pulling away.
It's because she finds your nice-guy "Wuss"
behaviors to be ANNOYING.
AND IT KEEPS GETTING WORSE...
To further confuse things, you'll often hear a
woman say something to the effect of...
"I want a STRONG guy who is also SENSITIVE..."
...or...
"He needs to have his own life, his own
interests, and his own friends, but also be
totally focused on me..."
I see things like this in women's personal ads
all the time. I'm sure you've seen things like
this yourself.
Women often talk about wanting a combination of
things in a man that just don't seem to fit...
So what's going on here?
Are women crazy? (Yes.)
But seriously, what are they talking about?
How is it that women seem to always talk about
wanting men who have these qualities that don't
fit together?
I know that I personally used to hear this
stuff and then say to myself "OK, well I've got
the sensitive part covered so I guess I need to
start acting a little bit stronger."
I thought that maybe this came down to getting
my lazy ass to the gym and working out. You know,
to become "stronger".
No, I'm serious.
Well, here's the BIG REALIZATION that I had...
I've now realized that I had it all wrong.
Instead of thinking to myself that I was a
nice, sensitive guy that needed to become a little
stronger, what I really needed was to become a
strong guy who could also act sensitive on
occasion.
The difference seems almost like word-play, but
it's not. Not at all.
You see, when a woman says that she wants a
"strong guy who's also sensitive", that's what she
MEANS.
She wants a guy who's STRONG. The sensitive
part is far more "optional" than the STRONG part.
This is why women often date jerks and guys who
are emotionally unavailable, and don't date us
"nice guys" who would do anything for them.
Remember, ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE.
Women do not sit down and make a list of the
qualities that a particular guy has, then think it
over it for a few days, then DECIDE whether or not
to FEEL ATTRACTION.
NO WAY.
It happens in an INSTANT, and it happens for
all kinds of "illogical" reasons... reasons that
even the woman who is feeling it can't usually
describe.
So what's the answer here?
Before I tell you... if you are reading these
words I'm saying, and you're thinking to yourself
"Yes! This is my problem!" then I want you to go
DIRECTLY to this link before you read any further:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/OnBeingAMan
The answer here is to realize that many of the
things you do when you're around women that you
feel attracted to, are considered ANNOYING by
those women.
You must understand that you sometimes have to
do things that SEEM to be "inconsiderate" in order
to give a woman what she REALLY wants (which is a
man who is in control of himself, the situation,
and often her).
Raise your right hand, and repeat after me...
"I will stop being a Wussy around women."
"I will stop being a Wussy around women."
"I will stop being a Wussy around women."
Stop doing things that say "I'm a Wussy",
because those are the very things that women find
ANNOYING.
And START doing the things that you're learning
here.
Lean back. Act Cocky & Funny around women. Bust
on them and give them a hard time. And LEAD the
way, don't follow.
Now, one of the problems that a lot of guys run
into is "putting together" different personality
traits that don't seem to go together.
Women say that they want guys who are funny...
but also strong.
Many of the things women SAY they want seem
like they CONFLICT with each other.
What's a guy to do?
Well, THE FIRST thing a guy should do is learn
what WORKS.
Not what SOUNDS like it might work.
Not what SHOULD work.
And not what is SUPPOSED to work.
LEARN WHAT WORKS.
I personally spent several years trying to
figure out what "works". Why did it take me so
long?
Because, as it turns out, I started out with a
HUGE disadvantage.
And I'm not talking about a disadvantage like a
big nose (which I have).
I'm talking about a disadvantage like BAD
PROGRAMMING.
I had a "map" in my mind... of how I thought I
should behave around women... and it turned out to
be THE WRONG MAP.
The most frustrating part was that when I did
the things that SHOULD work, they made women UN-
interested.
It was as if the world wasn't working right.
I would be sweet and nice, and a woman would
not want to talk to me.
I would call often and share my feelings with
her, and she would fall for the rude jerk who
could care less about treating her well.
Well, as you might already know, sometimes I'm
a "glutton for punishment".
Translation: I stuck with it anyway. I kept
trying to figure out what works... even though the
things I was doing WEREN'T working.
The magic "breakthrough" came ONLY after I
started making friends with and watching guys who
were VERY successful with women... then putting
what I knew about psychology and behavior together
with the NEW stuff I was learning "in the field".
What I discovered was literally SHOCKING to me.
I can remember slapping myself on the forehead,
shaking my noggin, and laughing to myself... as I
watched some of my new friends who were good with
women... doing things that just plain SHOULDN'T
work... but that DID work.
Here's one of the lessons I learned:
Body Language is more important than WORD
language.
In fact, you can have the smoothest "pick up
lines" in the world... but if you don't understand
Body Language, the woman you're talking to CAN'T
feel ATTRACTION for you.
Here's another one:
Doing "nice" things for a woman doesn't make
her any more likely to feel ATTRACTION for you. In
fact, most of these things BACKFIRE... and wind up
pushing her AWAY.
Here's a third lesson I learned:
Even though "jerks" and "bad boys" don't treat
women well, it doesn't mean that women don't feel
ATTRACTION for them.
In fact, women often report feeling INCREDIBLY
attracted to these kinds of men... so powerfully,
in fact, that they can't CONTROL these feelings...
As I was learning these interesting and
"counter intuitive" lessons, I also began
documenting the specific things that the guys who
were "naturals" with women did... in order to
attract women.
One of my BIGGEST realizations was that
literally ANY guy can attract women... if he just
understands how ATTRACTION works.
And any guy can use the secrets that "jerks"
and "bad boys" have discovered and used... WITHOUT
being abusive or mean.
In fact, if you LEAVE OUT the meanness or
abuse, a woman will be FAR more likely to STAY
around.
Recently, I've released two educational
programs that teach two very important aspects of
how to attract women.
The first one is called "Body Language For
Success With Women And Dating". In this program, I
will show you how to transform yourself from a
"nice, sweet, annoying WUSSY" into a guy who women
feel ATTRACTION for... by transforming your BODY
LANGUAGE alone.
Like I said, if you don't know how to use BODY
LANGUAGE to communicate with and attract women,
then the WORDS you say DON'T MATTER.
I want you to go right now and watch some video
clips from this program HERE:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/BodyLanguage
The SECOND important program I've released
recently is called "Cocky Comedy". In this program
I, and my special guests, spend several hours
teaching you how to master the technique that I
like to call "Cocky & Funny".
This is one of the interesting SECRET
techniques that the guys who are NATURALLY good
with women use.
It's a special mix of humor and arrogance...
that really switches on the "chemistry" with a
woman.
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
Your Personality based on Blood Type & Zodiac for Aquarius
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Aquarius & A-type
January 20 - February 18
for Men
Personality: You give off a great impression to everyone and people feel comfortable next you. Another admirable character about you is that you don't push the limits of others but rather wait patiently. The only aspect where you might clash with people is due to your creative nature. Your originality makes you see things in a different light.
Love Tendency: Your love is based upon honesty and sincerity. But there'll be few women who will grab your attention to get to this level of relationship. You prefer friendships where you don't have to worry about providing candlelight dinners and romantic spots.
Life: Teamwork is very important to you and that's why you will make a great employee. You're constantly making sure that you don't work individually and are sensitive toward other people's needs. Your patience and fortitude will pay off in the future.
for Women
Personality: You surprise people with your sudden changes in personality. One moment you are quiet as a lamb but if something happens to your dislike, your dark expression shows through. But people still enjoy having you around because you don't act upon individualistic motives and due to the spunk you give off.
Love Tendency: Don't worry about falling in love so hard that you can't think of anything else. That will not happen because you possess these frigid emotions when it deals with intimate relationships. You tend to be detached from relationships but that doesn't mean that you're a cheater.
Life: Concerning your career, you would have to be more dedicated to follow through with the projects you work on. You tend to have that problem and that's why you will not gain any respect unless you possess this. Even in other aspects of your life, you leave things undone that you will regret later on.
Match
Good Match: A-type of Gemini, AB-type Leos, and O-type Libras will be partners who are truly able to sympathize your feelings. You enjoy chattering the night away with your partner and that's why it's necessary to find someone that will be able to accommodate that.
Bad Match: There are people who will be screaming for your attention constantly. If they don't receive that they'll be raging with jealousy. B-type Scorpios will lead you to a relationship like that. B-type Taurus also don't suit you because you will clash with their ideal life style.
Aquarius & O-type
January 20 - February 18
for Men
Personality: Thanks to your unique expressions people remember you all the time. Your vivacious actions are also lasting impressions. With your leadership quality, you have the opportunity to direct any team you're in charge of.
Love Tendency: You're one of the favorite guys whatever social gatherings you attend. No wonder you have women surrounding you all the time. But your old fashioned nature tends to stay away from women. You feel more comfortable when you're hanging out with the guys.
Life: Your strong sense of direction makes you a qualifying candidate for success. There won't ever be a time when you give up on something you started. Your creativity will help you avoid difficulties or problems that arise at work.
for Women
Personality: Today's modern and bright woman is you and you're constantly on your toes to finish up some business. You would make a great leader because you have this quality where people are willing to follow your commands. People might think you're rude at times but that is one way to stay alive in real life. This is why you get along better with men than women.
Love Tendency: Men outnumber even casual friendships in your life. This might portray you as a capricious woman but that doesn't matter to you. You are able to date several men at one time and not think that there isn't anything wrong about it. Relationships to you are a way to explore for the right person.
Life: Make sure you remember that your friends are the key to your happiness. Try not to neglect them with your busy excuses. Your career will be the priority in your life and that's why you will receive important projects from higher authorities, who know that you're persistent.
Match
Good Match: A-type Libras and B-type Gemini and Leos would make compatible partners with you. They'll be able to fulfill your wishes and are able to listen to your complaints all the time. B-type Scorpios and A-type Aquarius are also promising partners.
Bad Match: You have big dreams about your future and accordingly. AB-type Scorpios and Capricorns would not match with your grand vision because they worry about the littlest matter. They will perceive you as a cold and insensitive person.
Aquarius & B-type
January 20 - February 18
for Men
Personality: There's no hidden agenda in your personality. You're very sincere and you expect others to be the same. That's where the disappointment may come in though because some people just might betray your sincerity. Your weakness is that you make decisions according to your emotions.
Love Tendency: Women are drawn to your creative spirit. This makes you a very popular guy. You could have many love interests but you avoid that all because you don't want them hurt at the end. It's better for you to stay cool and not to start anything that may end up being a problem.
Life: You're the ultimate idea man. It's surprising to others how you repeatedly come up with unique and original concepts. There will be times when people don't understand your ideas because they seem too far-fetched but you will survive them. Your peers respect you though and you're popular among your circle of friends.
for Women
Personality: You give off a cheery and luminous atmosphere that people find very comforting. There's no pretension and you don't hide anything from others. People might mistake your independence as selfishness. But time will tell that this isn't your personality.
Love Tendency: Weekends are very busy for you because phone calls from men stream in constantly to ask you out on a date. You're not a choosy person and tend to give all men the benefit of the doubt. You will experience many relationships but there'll only be one man you will constantly have on your mind.
Life: There's no way you would ever want to lose to a man because you never thought you are inferior to them. Your trouble is that you plan these goals but fail to follow them through. You need to work on your persistence if you want to accomplish something worthwhile in your career.
Match
Good Match: O-type Gemini and Leos and AB-type Libras are the best matches for you. They are great companions because they will provide interesting and stimulating conversations. People with vitality who can take challenges any time, such as O-type Aries and Sagittarius and B-type Gemini also match with your personality.
Bad Match: A-type Taurus and Scorpios would make terrible partners for you because they will really bore you. You're full of vivacious spirit and love to discover new things. Those signs worry about their safety first. They will also be too conservative for you.
Aquarius & AB-type
January 20 - February 18
for Men
Personality: It's difficult to approach you because you give off a cool impression. Surprisingly though, you have many friends and you even enjoy socializing with strangers. But even your friends have a hard time figuring out what you are really thinking inside. It would help to open up to them in an honest way.
Love Tendency: You're not satisfied with the average woman but seek for someone who has the same level of intelligence as you. You try to stay away from relationships that are too complicated and don't enjoy women who play mind games with you.
Life: You will probably work at a place where it emphasizes teamwork. You have aspirations as an individual but it will be difficult to pursue those dreams if you're too scared to leave the comforts of a salary life. Since you value you the spirit over substance in humans, you're at peace to have your true friends around you.
for Women
Personality: You're a calm and controlled person. You may come off as a mild-mannered woman but there's something you hide from others. People will follow you as a leader. Friends, on the other hand, will change all the time and people might criticize you for it.
Love Tendency: There are quite a few times when men don't see you as a woman because you don't play with their affections. You don't like to be pampered and you act as if you're just one of the buddies. Then you wonder why men don't find you attractive. It would work if you show off your femininity.
Life: Your first impressions to others are positive and your social skills are usually impeccable. This will benefit you as you're pursuing your goals. You will put in all your dedication to get to the top but take your time. Work will destroy your health if you're not taking care of yourself.
Match
Good Match: A-type Gemini and Leos and B-type Libras will make you a very happy person. They respect your life style and don't try to change that either. You're automatically attracted to intellectual people because you're bright in your own right. AB-type Gemini and A-type Sagittarius encourage your intellectual nature to come forward.
Bad Match: You don't enjoy associating with irrational people. Another pet peeve is to be pretentious to gain something in return. O-type Leos and Scorpios may be this way and the reason why you should stay away from them.
Reason Why Alchohol Should be Served at Work
Posted by Bobby Hamasaki at 13:50 Labels: Just For Laugh• It’s an incentive to show up.
• It reduces stress.
• It leads to more honest communication.
• It reduces complaints about low pay.
• It cuts down on time off because you can work with a hangover.
• Employees tell managementwhat they think, not what management wants to hear.
• It helps save on heating costs in the winter.
• It encourages carpooling.
• Increase job satisfaction because if you have a bad job,you don’t care.
• It eliminates vacations because people would rather come to work.
• It makes fellow employees look better.
• It makes the cafeteria food taste better.
• Bosses are more likely to hand out raises when they are wasted.
• Salary negotiations are a lot more profitable.
• Suddenly, burping during a meeting isnt so embarrassing.
• Employees work later since there’s no longer a need to relax at the bar.
• It makes everyone more open with their ideas.
• Everyone agrees they work better after they’ve had a couple of drinks.
• Eliminates the need for employees to get drunk on their lunch break.
• Increases the chance of seeing your boss naked.
• It promotes foreign relations with the former Soviet Union.
• The janitor’s closet will finally have a use.
• Employees no longer need coffee to sober up.
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• Babbling and mumbling incoherently will be common language.
It is not your fault. But it is your responsibility. The choices you have made have brought you to where you are now. And so have other factors that are completely beyond your control. There's nothing to be gained by blaming yourself for the way your life has unfolded. There's everything to be gained by actively taking full responsibility for the way your life proceeds. The route you traveled to this point no longer matters, for nothing can be done to change it.
What truly matters is what you do with now. Life is always unpredictable, yet there's something you can count on. The more sincerely and diligently you give yourself to the living of it, the more life will go your way. In this moment is every possibility. Take responsibility for it all, and bring the best of those possibilities to life.
Your Personality based on Blood Type & Zodiac for Capricorn
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Capricorn & A-type
December 22 - January 19
for Men
Personality: Shyness is the main factor why you're distant from other people. This also avoids the attention on you. Although you're a difficult person to approach to, you are easy to get along with once the bond is broken.
Love Tendency: You're truly inexperienced with relationships. This innocence may be appeal to women because you simply can't betray anyone. Your main concern is not to deal with capricious women. But they may all change if you fall in love because you're a very forgiving person.
Life: A great characteristic about you is your steadfastness in everything, including your career. This is why you will not be laden with many job changes in life. You abstain from things that you may think are bad news. Marriage will create much happiness for you.
for Women
Personality: You're blessed with this fortitude that is very helpful in pursuing your goals. Meddling situations are solved in no matter of time. No wonder you're the exemplary problem solver. There are times you need to raise your voice to let your opinion be heard.
Love Tendency: You lack the allure that men find appealing. But anyone who searches for an honest woman will be lucky to find you. Dating will come to you later than others. Don't be bothered by it because it will be worth the wait.
Life: Things may not work the way you want them to be. Hard times will be in store for you in your younger ears but happiness will fall into place two-fold in your later years. Learn to rely on yourself instead of depending on others for help.
Match
Good Match: O-type and A-type Taurus and Scorpios. AB-type Capricorns and Pisces also are great for you. They and you share the same destiny line that you are able to share the tribulations and happiness of life together. Since you dislike people who are superficial, the down-to-earth AB-type Taurus and O-type Virgos will suit you right.
Bad Match: A fickle person, just like B-type Aries would not be helpful in any way. B-type Libras are too nonchalant and insensitive for you.
Capricorn & O-type
December 22 - January 19
for Men
Personality: Sometimes you're too serious for people to interact. You're familiar with the notion that reality bites and that's why you're a cautious person. Whenever you set a goal for yourself, you work hard to follow through with it. You tend to hang out with men because they're more comfortable to be with.
Love Tendency: Although people think you're a serious person at the beginning, they soon find out that you're a real joker. You're popular with the opposite sex and you enjoy socializing with them. It's a different story when true commitment comes into play. You're afraid to be in a serious relationship because that is a role that you're afraid to assume. The women you are attracted to aren't the quiet types but the social butterflies, who are straight to the point.
Life: There's much affection and warmth in your heart. You'll enjoy a stable life because you actively take charge of your life and due to your dedicated persistence. The career field in a company looks promising, as long as you don't venture out to start your own business.
for Women
Personality: Honesty is the highest principle you abide by. Although you are an introvert, you still possess the charm to attract people to your conversations. People are compelled by your sincerity and tenderness. You stand on your ground when you disagree with someone but your lips are sealed when your friends ask you to keep a secret.
Love Tendency: Overwhelming emotions get in the way at times but they are charming when it comes from you. You enjoy chasing after your guy than the other way around. Usually you go for the physical appearance first. But your criterion changes when it deals with choosing your future husband.
Life: You're not a couch potato but the type who enjoys outdoor activities. Active involvements in the matters that interest you are important to your happiness. Don't be afraid to take a chance to risky opportunities.
Match
Good Match: A/B-type Taurus, Capricorns, and Pisces will be people who would fill your life with happiness. They and O/B-type Cancers are great partners and people who are willing to put in their best effort for this relationship. Since you have thoughtful consideration for others, you expect your partner to be sensitive, too. A-type Virgos and A/O-type Scorpios will love you to the end.
Bad Match: People have to be sincere to be your friends but there tend to be people who exaggerate with that. AB-type Cancers tend act this way. AB-type Libras aren't matching partners for you either.
Capricorn & B-type
December 22 - January 19
for Men
Personality: There's no hint of pretense in you. Even when you speak, people can't find you being hypocritical at all. But there lies the danger of people judging you as being rude. Some people may avoid you because they are afraid to hear the truth. This is also the reason why your honest nature might not help your image.
Love Tendency: Your girlfriends might think that you're not a romantic person or that you don't pamper them enough but you do have a great quality. Honesty is a very important factor in a relationship. You have plenty of that. One advice is to work on smoother conversations. You need to modify your conversations to be softer if you don't want your girlfriend to walk out the door.
Life: If you enjoy your job, you have a chance to be very successful. It is due to your honest nature that people will trust you and follow you as a leader. But you will most likely stay out of the service sector and build on your career where you would be able to move around freely.
for Women
Personality: You're a strong-willed and capricious woman. You make friends quickly because you act according to other people's needs. Great things are in store for you. Use your focused mind to your advantage. Capricorns are normally very caring people and you, out of all of them, are most involved to help out others.
Love Tendency: Men are attracted to your lovely, innocent nature. You take relationships with the opposite sex very seriously and that's why you hardly build friendships with them. This is why dating is out of the question for you, unless you meet a man whom you think will be suitable to start a future with. You're not the superficial type who's interested in the aesthetic appeal of men but you make that they have a lot of human warmth.
Life: You make a great friend and your relatives are delighted every time you participate in a family gathering. Make sure you decide early what path you want to take in terms of your career. You will work with a dedicated heart, if you set a goal for yourself. Financial matters are in firmly in your hands because you're a great saver.
Match
Good Match: O/B-type Cancers and AB-type Scorpio and Virgos are picture perfect couples. They are understanding toward your sometimes, unbalanced personality and love you whole-heartedly. B-type and O-type of Taurus are partners that you will also match with.
Bad Match: Although you're capricious in nature, you adamant about keeping promises. This is why you dislike people who are disorganized and who can't be dependable. A-type Sagittarius wouldn't match with you because they tend to be out of focus and you would encounter too many rough arguments with them. A-type Libras should also be avoided because they usually hide their true intentions from you.
Capricorn & AB-type
December 22 - January 19
for Men
Personality: Your curiosity leads to many explorations and there is always one in store for you. With the help of your ambitions, success will be around the corner. You are a sociable person when you have to but you rather enjoy spending time on your own. People might think you're shy but it's due to your individualistic nature.
Love Tendency: Your popularity with women is incredible, especially because you have a fashionable sense. But be careful about who you choose as love interests. You might run into trouble if you leave things undone in a relationship.
Life: You're determined to reach the goals you set and your life will be dedicated to these visions. Persistence will pay off and you will realize that people truly respect you for that. You will achieve recognition for your achievements from the surrounding peers. Although you will not start out small, you should be careful to pursue your goals moderately.
for Women
Personality: Sometimes people think you have superhuman strength because you're able to tackle a few tasks at once. You're fearless even if big obstacles get into your way. They are taken as interesting challenges. Elitism is in your blood and your peers are intimidated by it. Make sure you don't harm people with your all too often sarcastic remarks.
Love Tendency: You will often experience crushes and admire men from afar. Although you have an outgoing personality, your pride doesn't give in to make the first move in these situations. Your stinging remarks also don't help, so it would be in your best interest to polish your conversation.
Life: The ultimate career woman is you as long as you pick the suitable job. But you do possess the resilience to make it big. You'll have people to depend on because friends and relatives are there for support whenever you're in a slump.
Match
Good Match: Your aspirations in every matter are higher than anybody else. A-type Taurus, Cancers, Capricorns and Pisces would use all means to make you happy. You're attracted to people who are part of the elite society because you're intelligent yourself. B-type Virgos and Scorpios are sincere people who will also satisfy your intellectual curiosity.
Bad Match: If you would like to live in peace, O-type Libras should be avoided. They're people you will not be able to decipher. O-type Aries don't match with you either because they spend their money too lavishly.
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The partner who hogs the covers every night,
because he Is not out with someone else.
The child who is not cleaning his room, but
Is watching TV, because that means he Is at
home and not on the streets.
For the taxes that I pay,
because it means that I am employed.
For the mess to clean after a party,
because it means that I have been
surrounded by friends.
For the clothes that fit a little too snug,
because it means I have enough to eat.
For my shadow that watches me work,